I'm 21..and he's 22. I love him very much. we have been on and off for 3 years. We got engaged twice so far, because he drives me crazy we had to break up i can't count how many times. I have been living on my own for almost 7 years now, on the other hand he just left his parents house last year. The first time we tried moving in together we signed a year lease and we didn't last 3 month. I know i'm not perfect but he's worse. He's still in the "living with the parents" stage. Right now we are back together engaged living almost 1000 miles from his parents but every time we argue he calls his mom and wants her to comfort him. The reason why i'm still with him is because he has gone a long way since i first met him. he'sso much better than before, but he gets in the mood to argue with me and starts telling me to leave if i don't like it. It's minor things that we argue about like turning the light off when he is not using it.etc. i I love him but i'm strong enough to leave if i have to
2007-03-12 15:15:08 · 11 answers · asked by egyptianprincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if you love him you will have to deal with it. i was with my hubby 7 yrs before getting married and had no idea about his laziness and other habits i dont like. yes we all do things that the other person doesnt like and i know i can be annoying but he can be so disgusting and nasty and lazy... but i love him to death and i realize that as much as he drives me crazy sometimes i cannot be without him for even a min. and if he didnt do the things he did he wouldnt be himself and my life would be boring... lol... its up to you, could you ever look at him acting like a child and say to yourself this is the guy i love and smile? my guy can be annoying and just drive me nuts but at the same time i know he likes pulling my legs... can yall get into an arguement and just forget about it within an few hours? if you cant then forget it lol
2007-03-12 16:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leaving will not solve the issues. You are having marital spats and he has not matured enough yet to know how to handle them. You could both go to get some counseling in this area.
It is wrong for him to call his mother up each time because he is not communicating with you but with her.
He also needs to stop telling you to leave. It really sounds like he does not want to be together. You need to ask him what his intents are and what he really wants out of this relationship. If you are not married then leaving each other is not going to be such a big deal.
However I would say try to work it out see if you can get him to talk, and the next time he calls his mother gently take the phone away, and tell him to tell you everything he is fixing to tell her. Pretend like I am your mother call me by your mothers name. Then you be the mother and give the advice and see what happens. The reason I am saying this is because he needs to see that you two have the answers within yourselves. It is OK for him to discuss this with his mother but you need to be the first one he talks to.
I hope that this helps.
2007-03-12 23:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine what it going to be like being married to him and his MOM. Whew I feel sorry for you.. He is not mentally ready for this kind of committment. Id say he wont be ready till he is about 30. and youd be wise to WAIT ALONG time before you jump into a marriage with that one. Until he can control his temper, get mommy out of the picture, stand on his own two feet and show you he is mature enough to handle a WIFE, and possibly children, Big Mistake if you marry anytime soon.
2007-03-12 22:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dana D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, sorry but, you have a little boy that's playing house with you. He knows he's mother will always be there, so that's why he uses that running too her move. What you need to do is sit down with him and have a adult conversation and see were this is heading with both of you. Make a choice and move on. Life is too short to be bullshi*tin'. Good luck!!
2007-03-12 22:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Midwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my heavens if you two arn't the couple from hell. keep up the good work.
by the way, if you don't like how he is now, wait until you are married a fiew years. one of you might be on the news.
accept him for what he is now or get out of the relationship and quit trying to hope he will "get better"!!!
2007-03-12 22:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explain your perspective to the man and let him know that either he stops relying on his parents in every tense situation or he should find another woman. Then his actions will speak for him, and you should act accordingly.
2007-03-12 22:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, if u r on and off and miserable end it. u wanna be with the man who completely understands you and doesnt complain or argue about the stupidest things.
2007-03-12 22:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it sounds like ur alot more muture than he is ur in one place in ur life and he's in another u might want to think about that it might be time for u to put him behind u and go on with ur life and find someone that's ready to get serious as it sounds like u r
2007-03-12 22:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM OR DEAL WITH HIS MINOR FLAWS! ITS TO EASY. DO YOU LOVE HIM? IF SO LOVE IS HARD WORK! IT TAKES YOU GIVING 100 PERCENT AND HIM AS WELL. ARE YOU WILLING TO GIVE HIM A FULL 100 PERCENT!
2007-03-12 22:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its an emotional rollercoaster,get out.
2007-03-12 22:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by blue2602001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋