I need help with my girlfriend?

Question

Im thirteen and i just got a girlfriend and... wait let me tell you everything. Okay, im thirteen and last year i met this girl last year and found out that we like exactly the same things. We've been friends ever since. Since this year syarted my friends had been telling me that she liked me. Of course i knew i liked her too , so they told me to ask her out. Since i get real neverus(and i mean REAL nervous) i only asked her out a few weeks ago, and i was so neverous i didnt even ask her out in person! But she said yes and we've been really happy together,but i need help on getting things like goig. NOT like sex! i mean like the most ive ever done is put my arm around her in front of some of my friends. I want to hold hands and kiss and stuff like that but i dont know how to get things started. Please help

Answer 1

The hardest part of having your first girl freind is getting over the stage of what do I do.

So my adice is to go slow and let nature take it's course. Things will happen when they do. Don't rush them. Don't push them.

Answer 2

take it step by step. The next thing would be holding her hand. Watch a movie or something and just slowley grab it. A lot of time tickeling helps. Tickle her and play around like that and when you are done, don't let go of her, whether it be her shoulder arm, or hand. I guarentuee that she is waiting for you to do that. Once you are comfortable with that the best way to kiss her is to look into her eyes at the right moment, run your fingers through her hair and kiss her on the cheek. Then you can move foward the next time and kiss her on the lips. Don't use tongue though at first. That would be your next step but don't expect to go any farther than that because you are 13. Tongue may be too much for you, I don't know times have changed! Be a gentleman though and moving foward also gets easier when you tell her how beautiful she is and how pretty her eyes are and how good she smells, stuff like that!!!

Answer 3

Hey guy,
First off, take things SLOW.....hehe, youre young, dont rush it. But what youre asking for is quite alright. Holding hands, lets see. If you can put your arms around her in front of friends, Im sure she wouldnt mind holding your hand. When you two are walking together, just gently slide your hand into hers, LOOK AT HER, make sure she doesnt feel uncomfortable about it, if she does, give it some more time, and dont even try the kissing thing yet. BUT, if she smiles, youre doing good :) Youre going to be nervous as heck for both of these probably so dont try to think about it too much. Now for the kissing, this is a sensitive subject, because this involves personal space. Now if youre not sure if shell be comfortable with it, SIMPLY ASK HER if she would mind if you kissed her, she might laugh, giggle, or even say "what have you been waiting for?" OR, she might say no, which is ok too, because you would have just saved yourself from an even bigger humiliation of trying the "lean-in" thing. For all of this, make sure she wants to and that shes ready for it, dont rush it if she doesnt want to, respect her opinions and personal space, heck you never know, she might be the one to grab your hand, or kiss you. You never know, but make sure that its the right time for it. Hope that helps you out.

-Brandon-

Answer 4

Hey there... don't stress man. Just be yourself. The hardest part about making the first move is OVERTHINKING IT! You can make the smallest things the biggest of deals. Tell her you'd like to hold her hand, then gently grasp it. This would be easiest while on a walk. Take her wandering around the shopping center, the beach, the forest, etc etc. Once she is cool with that, kiss her on the cheek when you leave her place, parents pick her up, or however the two of you might part. Also, talking on the phone / online is an easy way to bring up topics, like how she felt about you holding her hand made her feel. You want her to know you care about how she feels... so make sure to bring it up after you've made a move to make sure she is ok with the progress you are trying to initiate.

hope this helps!

Answer 5

Aww you seem sweet and she is lucky to have you! The best thing you can do right now is take things slowly and always be a gentleman and treat her with respect. If you are in a movie or walking around somewhere, don't be shy to hold her hand- she is probably waiting for you to do it. Don't stress about kissing- wait for the right moment- it will come- and when it does, make sure not to be too forceful or you will scare her away! Be gentle and respectful, and with time you will figure it all out. Best of luck to you and your new girl! :-)

Answer 6

Dude, you're the MAN. Congrats for this. Alright, here's the deal. How did you act around her before you guys "hooked up"? Good- act exactly like that. You probably flirted with her a bit before the "hookup", (or whatever you're calling it), so don't feel like you have to suddenly escort her everywhere, etc. You could sit with her at lunch, if you wanted, just talk it up, take it really really slowly. Then, so you asked her out? Ask her to a movie or something. You can flirt, etc. Put your arm around her, etc. Then, at the end of the night/ date, you could say: "Listen, I'm not sure what your feelings are on kissing on first dates, but I think you're wicked pretty and it's my responsibility as a man, etc." Saysomething that makes her laugh, and eases the tension. If she says no- roll with it. Doesn't mean forever. (She likes you, right?) On the other hand, if she does, keep it simple. Give her a hug after, maybe kiss her on the cheek, and just be mad sweet to her. Respect her, listen to her words, and act like a man. You've got it on lock mate. Good luck. Have faith in yourself, too. You'll be fine.

Answer 7

well, I say, that if you make the attempt to kiss her, it may not be welcomed yet. When I was 13, I had the same situation, I really liked this girl, and I remember when I asked her out finally, it took me months to finally kiss her, and she mae the movfirst. She was my first girlfriend, so it was sort of crazy for her to have made the first move. We stayed together for six years. My new girlfriend and Im kissed right after we started dating, so it really varies.
I say if you like her enough, you will try to make sure the kiss is mutual. I say that if you really like her though, do it in a place where she feels comfortable, but don't rush it. It's really not as complicated as I am making it, it's just that if you like her enough to not insult her, you'll take your time.

Answer 8

Well the arm around shoulder is cool. You should probably start things off with hugs. Then kick it up to Holding hands. Start talking to her about personal things, that you wouldn't tell just any girl. Remind her that you love her. Hold her so hard that she wants to let go. It'll work Trust me. You should kiss her when you think she wants to. Or just ask if she wants to. Go little by little. just don't pressure her too much or things won't work out. You guys'll be great off if you just act like yourselves. Try not to get too nervous around her. you have to gain trust in her.

Answer 9

alright 1st of all i can tell your a really good guy and u must be very sweet! b/c most guys go for sex and im so glad your not going that way. to be a sweet heart ask her for a kiss not like a makeout start with just a lil pop kiss on the lips nothing major. ask her if u can hold her hand don't just do it with out asking r she might think your a jurk. take it slow!! good luck!

Answer 10

just set up something romantic put on her favorite slow song look her in her eyes and say im really glad i met you youve made my life so much better then kiss her not too long mybe 4-8 seconds but not a peck shes gotta know your serious then its all up to you after that once you cross that line ur good to go but stay away from sex im 18 and i lost my virginity early and forget what your guy friends say try to make it more special then the town bicycle or a drunken hook up oh yeah and stay in school and off drugs except weed but wait till your 16 for that peace my yung protege