how do you women feel when a man doesnt ejaculate the first time you have sex?

Question

i rarely ejaculate the first time i have sex with a girl.. i know that it probably has to do with a little performance anxiety, and the fact that i usually have had a few drinks as well that night, but it really doesnt bother me at all

so im just wondering how girls take it.. do you mind? do you feel responsible for it? do you think i have issues? do you think im gay (lol)? what do you think?

thanks for all responses, and the smart-*** comments that i kinda expect

Answer 1

I usually do feel a little bad and wonder if I did something wrong. If he wants to do it again...then I know I was fine.

Answer 2

I use to be the same way! A lot of women do get freaked out by it!-I think most women are use to men that come instantly or very quickly and feel offended and confused if you don't. it would take me forever to ejaculate having vaginal intercourse. I could come a lot easier receiving head though. Eventually I realized its all about positions with me and the right girl. Some girls like to try every position and do all sorts of acrobatics, this would always make me take forever. I've learned that the best position for me to come is me on top and her in traditional missionary position. this may seem boring but it works. Also the girl should have some good snapper.

Answer 3

I'm kind of confused. What do you mean by "the first time," like the first time with that person or the first time that night. And if it's the first time with that person, how many people are you sleeping with that you would even think about this... that's just nasty...

IF it's the first time that night or whatever, then that's cool, that just means more fun later.

I think if he never finished I might feel responsible... like he wasn't enjoying it or something.

I guess if it's just once and I finish, I probably wouldn't think about it.

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and btw - I think this problem would be a lot easier to deal with than a guy that finished too quickly. If you tell her what's up, it's all good.

Answer 4

To be honest, I don't care. Doesn't bother me in the least. What I really don't like though is when someone is so inebriated that they just lay on top of me, sawing away for a half-hour or so. Makes me wish I'd brought a book.

Answer 5

Dude, I'm the same way. I don't get off much- I usually do it for the ladies. My guess is that they're not gonna mind as long as it's not an everytime thing. Hell, they probably appreciate the work that you do on their behalf. I know my lady did.

Answer 6

My important different tells me she will experience it every time, and she or he likes it. the 1st 3 hundred and sixty 5 days or 2 we had intercourse, she informed me that all the lubricating moisture from my ejaculation felt so good she needed me to shoot yet another load in the past I pulled out. It become difficult, yet I in lots of cases did it to delight her... and me. :)

Answer 7

Um, that has never happened to me... why don't you just keep going until it happens, you probably make the girl feel like there is something wrong with her that keeps you from getting excited enough to have it happen

Answer 8

kinda like you suspect...some of us would wonder if you enjoyed it or what we might have done wrong/not well, etc.

Most men "finish". Lots of cuddles and actually talking to the woman about it would be great! Don't make her stress over this, she will be stressing about too many other things too, like "is he going to call me tomorrow? or does he think I'm fat? you know, the usual!

Answer 9

It is okay with me You can not judge a book by its cover . If the woman thinks there is something wrong then she is the stupid one .

Answer 10

maybe you should explain to your dates that it just the way you function before you actually get to that part, I would affect the relationship seriously for some women.