help please!!!!?

Question

ok i have this controlling friend , she forces us to do everything with her and if we don't she gets mad and calls me a loner and some other things too and my parents are really strict so they don't let me go anywhere . she just can't respect that. And now we are suppose to go on a far away trip to another country and i can't go cause of personal problems and i told her what it is but she doesn't understand. she keeps saying how i have no social life just because im not going with her. I have this other friend who is my bff and she criticizes me with that the other girl but when my bff is alone with me she talks about how that girl is mean and she is so nice and we bond really well but she and the other girl criticize me when they are they are together . what should i do. i don't want to leave if i leave im not going to have any friends

oh yeah she is so used to getting her way she is spoiled and she thinks everyone 's life just like her's

Answer 1

These girls aren't being a friend to you, they are uppity snobs and have you to walk on. Find a real friend, they aren't the only friends available. I wouldn't want anyone treating me the way they do you and neither should you.

Answer 2

Hey there. It seems you have some friends that are afraid of sticking up for you, and yourself. If you cant go, thats that. Thers nothing you can do. First off, friendship is a very important bond. Ask your friend why she criticizes you around the other friend but are completely different when its just you two. Persist with this question until they give a truthful answer, because it will either lead to one of two things: 1.) Your friend will get mad at you, possibly yell, and may not be your friend in the end OR 2.) they will fess up to why, and will stop and your friendship will be stronger. Your parents may be another issue. Depending on how old you are, I can understand why they wouldnt want you to go to another country too, but for social gatherings, you may want to try to negotiate some things with them, but be reasonable, make sure they get thier end of the bargain too, like you doing chores around the house or something, but make sure you dont do anything bad to lose thier trust because once that happens, any chance after that is out the window. basically, if your friends cant accept that you just cant do some things, perhaps they are as good of friends as you thought.

-Brandon-

Answer 3

It seems as though you are being pushed into things you have no real desire to do, and that your controlling 'friend' isn't that at all. It's a stretch to say that you won't have any friends if you leave, there are plenty of people on this planet, and I'm sure there are plenty of people near you and there is no reason that you cannot become friends with some of those people that are a little less controlling. Start by asking your parents if you can go to a movie, don't take your 'friends', just go, and look for people your age, or people that look or act like people you would like to hang out with. Don't be afraid to go talk to them and ask them what movie they are seeing, all they can say is no. If they say no, it doesn't matter, go get a drink and move on to another group, the first group will forget you, and you can forget them. Trust me you will find friends, and you will feel more in control and better in general.

Answer 4

growing up i made a lot of friends and i am very thankful for that but i also had to be selective of who my friends were. I've learned that the girls are very mean and jealous so pls be careful. I know is hard to make real friends but you should not let this 2 girls to make decisions for you and tell you who is good for you or not. You are not a loner just becouse you dont go out with that girl.
You sound like you are in high school and if this is true pls dont talk too much to those girls bc they do talk about u when you are not around and WHO KNOWS WHAT THEY SAY.

If you are not in high school than just get out some more and make new friends.

Answer 5

Sad isn't it, all you want is to have a few good friends and they act like idiots. Think maybe they need to grow up a bit, sorry hun. I hope you find some new friends, people that will respect you and your feelings in all areas of life.

Answer 6

If they talk about u behind your back there not true friends i always think its better to have truefriends then no friends at all. i would just tell that other chick that always gets mad at u that she is just going to have to deal with the fact that u cant go. and just tell her your sorry but your parents just want let u go its not your fault and she shouldnt be getting mad! and tell them that they need to find better things to do then talk about people behind there back. it seems to me that they are both back stabbers. and u don't need that u need true friends! im sure u can make other friends besides them too.

Answer 7

you are talking about a hand full of people at best. there must be more people in your school. you just don't know them.
if you want to continue to be miserable go along with these two bimbows... and then you can enjoy your misery and keep on complaining.
GET RID OF THOSE TWO AND GET SOME NEW FRIENDS!!!

Answer 8

dont go to the trip if u dont want to. you shouldn't be forced to do something u don want to do. just tell her to respect ur decisions or u wont be friends with her anymore. its better to keep ur dignity that to have a controlling friend. i hope u follow my advice. good luck with the situation
:D

Answer 9

doesnt sound like them two are friends anyway i'd dropped them and start spending ur time in better ways and u might find u'll make some good friends

Answer 10

Ditch the mean one, and if the other is really your bff...you'll still have a friend.