Is this too much to expect? please give me your opinion?

Question

I just had a huge fight with my bf, because of his 'wasting time' with me. I have a job. He doesn't. He does his own thing all day, he is learning new stuff and things. I know he isn't just scratching his belly all day. The thing is, he got all offended because i told him he should organize his time better so he could get around to doing something that he HAS to do, and hasn't. He suggested he stop seeing me. We had previously agreed we would stop seeing eachother like 2 of the 7 days in a week. We see eachother about 2 or 3 hours when i get off from work, and on weekends about 6 hours. I got really offended about him wanted to cut me back more, and he said he could use all that time that he spends doing nothing with me, actually learning something useful. And that it's like i don't think that what he does is important, only my stupid job.
But i do know that stuff is important. Am i wrong to expect him to do his things while i'm at work so we can be together after it?

Answer 1

when i was in love when i was young, you would not be able to keep us apart when we had free time , there is not an excuse to see each other less ,that's what love is all about , ,to be apart even more that should raise a red flag in your mind. if you really love this person ,like a bird set him free if it is meant to be he will come back,i set someone free because i really loved them if they were happy to be without me and would be happier without me ,if i was holding them back for what would make them happy i would be selfish if they did not want to be with me and i tried to hold on to them no matter how much i loved them. I'm not trying to be silly but i would pray to a higher power of your choice to help me to let me know what is going on, remember you are number one don't be hurt ,the higher power has other plans for you to make someone else and yourself a real commitment of true love ,don't ever put a hundred percent of faith in anyone you are only making room for yourself to be let down. my thoughts and prayers are with you, if you have to move on its better to know now then ten years later which happen to me ,and never feel that you are doing anything wrong , its more his lost then yours ,you seem like a great person i would not want you to suffer do to a guys non sensitivity for your feelings ,i only wish the best in the future.

Answer 2

Its not wrong for you to want him to do stuff while your at work its normal. If you can spend more quality time with him when he does his other stuff when your working all the better. Its all in the way you communicate or talk to him about this stuff, there is a dozen ways to compromise but are you going to pick the one you need for yourself and him and can you explain it in a way that he will understand? Talk its all you can do to avoid tragedy. Tell him the more time he spends doing stuff when you are not there the more interesting things you can do when you are together. Take care Heather

Answer 3

yes u don't expect much from him as he's good 4 nothing.u r advised to leave him alone n forget about him 4ever.as i see he's totally not interested with u seriously,u r better look 4 someone afresh n don't waste ur precious time.take care n good luck.