i'm only 13 and i've been raped 7 times, by 3 guys. all of them are in jail now but i probably will never get over it. i feel like i will never be able to have a relationship because i am terrified of guys now and everytime one talks to me i scream my head off....on the inside and i've tried talking with a psychiatrist and i've tried multiple things to get over this problem and i know i'm only 13 and a serious relationship isn't realistic but i mean i want to date like a normal teenager but i feel like i won't be able to and i'm doomed to a life of loneliness, what should i do?
2007-03-12 14:50:15 · 11 answers · asked by Leannedrufy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should talk to a psychologist so you can move on with your life and fall victim to your fears. I am very sorry you were raped and it was not your fault, it was those guys' faults. Your psychologist helps you become more esteemed and aware about who you are and helps you grow as a person. You are only thirteen and i know you want to move on, but it seems like your fear is holding you back. Talk to one.
I think you need a hug so here is a virtual hug *hug*. Also you might need a change in scenery. You could get transfered to a new school so you can start all over, make new friends, and move on with your life. If you don't like this idea, its okay. It doesn't work with everybody.
I hope all goes well for you. Stay strong and talk to somebody about this. Check if there is a local support group you can go to.
2007-03-12 15:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Aztec girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... your life has been destroyed, but you don't have to continue to live on like this. Accept the fact that you have and try and move on. Your not alone. many girls lives has bee destroyed by insecured guys who doesn't respect a woman, but its up to you to either carry it on for the rest of your life or let it go. And as for the being around guys thing. Know that not all of them are the same. Sure most of em won't respect you, but don't fear all of them, and just don't go anywhere alone with them. Trust your instincts. Don't say you won't get married, there is always a guy out there who will accept you even if you have. I really don't know what else to tell you, but I hope things work out for the best of you.
2007-03-12 21:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Fae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to read about what happened to you. Something so traumatic like that is very difficult to resolve. Please keep getting psycho-therapy. Maybe you could find some group therapy with other girls and women who have been raped and understand your feelings. Until you can reconcile this awful trauma you will not be ready for a relationship with a guy. Time alone and therapy for now is what you need. Try not to give up on guys. Somewhere there is a nice guy who will not try to harm you.
2007-03-12 22:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by cartiphilus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come so many men have raped you? do you put yourself in dangerous positions? look, unless you are just extremely unfortunate, it sounds like you are
A) lying somewere in that story, or,
B) Seem easy too the opposite sex.
Sex doesn't make up everything in a relationship, so don't give it away immediately.
2007-03-12 21:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Amber _rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. No one should have to go through that. All I can tell you to do is to pretend to be ok with guys. Take deep breaths and remind yourself that they will not rape you. Imagine them being part of your family, and talk to them like that. Eventually, you should go from pretending to genuinely being comfortable around guys.
2007-03-12 21:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear that. U need to talk to someone u trust or even a professional and just talk about what u've been through. not person to go through something like that. if u ever need someone to talk to u can just email me and I'll try to help u out as best as I can. good luck
2007-03-12 21:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow my mom had a similar thing happen when she was young but she pressed on and found a guy who cared enough about her to help her threw that situation
2007-03-12 22:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by ron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn that a lot move out and try starting from zero keepin it real slow and you might get over a little bit
2007-03-12 21:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by JG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the support of your friends and family you can pass by anything.
2007-03-13 21:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that psychiatrist didn't help, find another one. you can live a constructive and fulfilling life.
2007-03-12 21:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋