I have been with my fiance for 3 years. We were planning to marry this May. However, of late, it's become more obvious that he is hot tempered. He thinks that people are out to belittle him. What upset me most was when he hit out at my mum as he thought that she was belittling him. He has never been satisfied with where he is today. He wants to earn more and be successful. He started working late in life and has some catching up to do. However, I have time and again told him that no matter what, I love him and that he is doing well in his career. That doesn't help. The inferiority complex is deep rooted due to his upbringing. His mum was constantly belittling him and he has a bad r'ship with his mum & sis. When I told him that my mum wasn't belittling him he didn't listen. In fact, he became louder and said hurtful things. I told him that I was afraid to marry him and we should postpone the wedding. He said "well me too. Good idea!" He hasn't called me since. I love him.
2007-03-12 14:48:58 · 3 answers · asked by Mae C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Assuming he's well into being an adult, and knowing that personalities don't change much in adulthood, you have to ask yourself; "Do I want to spend a lifetime pacifying this man and catering to his insecurities and anger?" I think you're better able to answer that than I am, but you should be thinking seriously about it.
2007-03-12 14:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jolly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you love him, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life making sure all your attention goes to him and get nothing in return?
2007-03-12 21:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get married yet. he needs therapy for his inferiority and anger management for his temper.
2007-03-12 21:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋