my boyfriend and i have been together a year now and i just found out that the password to all of his computer/e-mails are the name of his ex girlfriend back home in africa. he is leaving to go back home this summer for 4 weeks. should i be upset or question him about the password?
2007-03-12 14:48:12 · 17 answers · asked by pisces_dreamer06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how did you find out the password? If you secretly figured it out, I think you already don't trust him for some reason or another, so, my suggestion is that you just question him about it calmly, if you confront him mad and upset that will only make him mad and upset as well, hope it turns out well for you
2007-03-12 14:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speaking from a males perspective, if I broke up with my girlfriend and was truly over her I sure wouldn't be using her name as my password. As a matter of fact, the first thing I would do would be to change my password. Not only should you be upset, you should also question him about it. Sounds to me like his so "not over", if not still in love with is ex. Peace and God bless.
2007-03-12 22:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you must feel betrayed and I think I would definately, after a year (of exclusivity?) feel like I was "owed" an answer.Not to add fuel to the fire but it really doen't take that long to change a password. Just think about what you are asking of him and be prepared for any kind of answer. It could make or break the relationship. Good luck.
2007-03-12 21:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by little lu-lu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if u do, u'll come off as needy or desperate, & u don't want that. He's probably just used to the name & thinks it would be a hassle to chg. it. How did u find out about his p/w , anyway? Were u snooping? If u were, u sure as hell don't want him to know. P/Ws r supposed to be private, I'd never tell anyone what mine is, they could get in & do a lot of damage, especially if they got mad. Trust in him, he's w/u now, not her-forget it. BOL.
2007-03-12 22:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that he has some left over feelings for his ex. But b4 u go off on him, which i know u wanna do right now, talk to him first about your relationship and where it stands. Tell him u have a problem with it
2007-03-12 21:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i understand why u can be upset with that, but i think u should talk to him with a cool mind and no need to judge him. make a good comunication with him. make him feel that u really love him and u trust him. sometimes we have to learn to let go someother pieces of our heart, but it doesn't mean we lost the whole heart. i wish u the best.
2007-03-12 21:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't what if you try going to africa with him but still think about it if he really loves you he would just be friends right maybe they are there because it's his friends name
2007-03-12 21:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by Water Girl!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not upset, he probably got them way back when, when he HAD his ex girl. Tell him that you know, but don't be upset.
-hope this helped
2007-03-12 21:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I think you should tell him how you feel about it and ask him straight forward if he still likes the girl or not.
2007-03-12 21:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by april h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Africa with him....I mean why not right?
2007-03-12 21:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by Caligirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋