I choose not to have sex until I have found the right man. And I have never had a relationship in my life. I am 22 yrs old and I just don't get it. Men say I am too intimidating and I don't know what to do? Help!!!!!!!!!!! Is it a curse to have morals and integrity?
2007-03-12 14:47:14 · 20 answers · asked by Bootylicious L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of Kudos to you! I'm 22 as well and share your sentiments. Althought I just entered into a relationship with a guy who is 7 years older, i've made it clear to him that I am not ready and am not going to engage in premarital sex. I've given him the green light that if sex is so important to him then he should just move on and find someone else. We have been together for two years now and he is waiting for me.
Remember it is NEVER WRONG nor is it a curse to have morals and integrity. We are just the few who are steadfast in our believes and hence, its truely admirable. Don't ever let the ills of society get to you. I told myself that I am me and I will stick to my principles that I believe are correct.
2007-03-12 15:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepie_cal_5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo to you for having morals and integrity! You have made a choice for YOU and that is OK. If some man doesn't like your choice then he is NOT for you. If a man loves you, he will wait for you. Part of love is sacrifice and if you want to wait for love making then he will prove his love by sacrificing and not pressuring you for sex until you feel it is right.
I don't understand how having morals and integrity is intimidating???
why sex is so important for a man is because of hormones (on the physical level). At your age men are charged with testosterone. At an emotional level men need sex because of the connection. Women connect more by talk; men connect more by actions. Being intimate sexually is a way to connect for a man that he can't really do with words.
2007-03-12 22:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by ranlav62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morals and integrity are amazing. The problem is simply that men with morals and integrity are just as rare as women who share those qalities and then it can be hard for them to find each other. Relationships with them are amazing though, because you both have to be far more mature than average or you wouln't be the people you are and that let's the relationship begin on a level of caring that some relationships never reach becase so many people only worry about the physical side of things.
2007-03-12 21:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by KatieBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt hurt to wait til you find the right guy. I waited till i was 19 before I had sex with the guy. we had been together for over a year before anything happened. we were together for 4 years then broke up for 2 years, and now we're starting to see each other again.
then there are those guys who want to see how easy you are, and if you're gonna give it up on the first date. if you do then great for them, they get a piece, if they dont get a piece they may find you challenge, and want to see how long it takes to crack the code. It really depends on the guy and what they want.
Dont lower your standards or believes for anyone though. It's awesome you're waiting for mr. right and no its not a curse to have integrity, dignity, and morls.
2007-03-12 22:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Heather Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not intimidating. They just like the easy skank that walks around in booty shorts once in a while. Keep your standards and your morals or you'll end up settling and be kind of unhappy. You're just one of the few people who don't give it up to every boyfriend you go out with. Keep up the good work.
2007-03-12 21:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short sometimes,we are here today and gone tomorrow,you may never get a chance to know the feeling and how you can make someone feel,so why pro long not having sex,do you think you will run out,not likely.
2007-03-12 21:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to tel you the truth, all men really want is sex. If we can get it, its all good. If we can't and the girl is really sexy, we might wait a bit. But after that you just have to have sex to keep it going. If you don't want to, you might just have to go for the guys who never get it. Cos they really don't have a better option than to wait till the girl makes them wait.
2007-03-12 21:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by The Machine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men like sex... women that like sex, are very much compatible with men that like sex....
Since you want to wait, then you will wait a long time, until you find a man that wants to wait... which is very very rare..
Women are like buses... if you dont make yourself available, another one will be along shortly...
-Thanks Tom... Even though Im not a 101 grad yet... I still take heed to everything you say...
2007-03-12 21:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sex is the reason why we get a partner. without sex, relationship is nothing.
i think you are afraid to become failure in relationship.
what is the important of men is NOT CHEATING YOU in relationship not those sexual need from men. it is normal to men clan. even those animals can feel it too.
2007-03-12 22:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by PG_13 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it is a curse and I respect you for that.
Don't give in to their demands it is just a ploy to get you to lower your guard.
Just get prepare for the right man...He will surely come along and he will be happy that you kept yourself for his sake.
2007-03-12 21:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by Dazanix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋