I just turned 18 a few months ago, and I really think I need to grow up. I do a lot on my own and my parents say I'm responcible, but I still feel like a kid and I dont know how to get over it. I also dont know how to get over childish fears, especally the once I cant do anything about, like the end of the world, or people accepting me or rejecting me, going and doing stuff on my own with out being "asked", just growing up, and getting ready to leave home, I dont know the steps I need to take to get there...any ideas?
2007-03-12
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Since you are so concerned about it, to me it sounds like you are well on the way to being grown up. There is no magic age that you become a "grown-up". All adults have fears and feel helpless about some things. It's quite normal. You have to accept it and go on as best you can. Maybe that's being a "grown-up"––being worried but not letting it paralyze you.
2007-03-12 14:52:59
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answered by Purdey EP 7
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It all comes with experience, look at the stuff you would normally be asked to do and do them like you normally do, just without being asked.
:) its ok to fear stuff like the end of the world, just don't let it get the better of you. Understand that its just one of the million things that could happen any day or might not and just go one with ya day. As for accepting and rejecting, that is something you don't grow out of, some people wont like you and some people will. Just the way it works.
Make a list of stuff you think you'll need to do when you move out. Now start to do them while your at home. By the time you move out most of it will be familiar to you and it wont be such a shock. :) Im going through same sorta thing
2007-03-12 21:57:21
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answered by Sorta Undead 3
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just b/c you turn 18 doesn't mean that you wake up on that day and everything is different. it takes time and experience. we all live with some fears even as we get older. it's just that the older we get and the more experience we have the better we are at dealing with our fears. give yourself some time. really, there is no rush.everyone is different and you'll make your way when you're ready. i'm 46. i still feel like a kid. i still wonder sometimes if i'm doing things right or making the right desicions. we all do. but you know what? it's okay.
there are no real steps to growing up except maye start by getting a job or going to school. save some money and do the right thing. it'll all fall into place one day.
2007-03-12 22:03:09
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answered by racer 51 7
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Get out there and do things...experience is the best teacher. If you are fearful then remember this scripture in 11 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. You don't get grown overnight. It is the work of a lifetime. I know cause I will be 61 this year and I am still growing and learning. When I was 18 I joined the Army. It was interesting. Mmm
2007-03-12 21:54:44
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answered by ? 6
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Growing up is a process that takes many years. It sounds like you are on the right track. Now is the time for you to start wondering about where your life is going. Do you want to go to college? University? Trade school? or get a full time job? Sit down and make a list of goals. Ask yourself where you want to be in the next year, five years, ten years and so on. that will help you figure out what needs to be done now in order for you to achieve what you want later.
And finally, don't try to grow up to fast. It is great that you want to be an adult, but don't jump immediately into the role. Enjoy yourself. Relax and have fun. That is what life is all about.
2007-03-12 21:56:17
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answered by heather d 2
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Hm...
Well for one thing, you're only 18, which is not really that old.
Second, adults sometimes have fears, too. Being grown up doesn't mean having fears, it just means handling them appropriately. Life doesn't magically stop being hard when you're an adult. Maybe it seems that way, but it's not true.
I recommend that you talk to your parents about this and share what you're feeling. Just because you're 18 now doesn't mean they can't help you.
2007-03-13 01:50:44
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answered by drshorty 7
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My gosh you sound JUST like me!!! 18 in a month! But I'm moving on the DAY I turn 18 and am literally moving across the country. I will have some growing up to do. And I'll do it fast!
Good Luck Man!
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-sirK
2007-03-12 21:55:39
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answered by -sirK 2
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Growing up is just a silly idea some evil person put in your head. Just live your life the best way you can, I'll warn ya, ya may make a few bad decisions...learn from them...you'll have your great ones too, so don't be scared, just move on and play this silly game called life, we're all doin' it with you.
2007-03-12 22:04:25
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answered by BrownPuPPy_eyes 3
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You know what to do: go to college and get a job and your own place. Do your best every day. The rest just happens to you. Incedentally, once you have two kids, not one, two, that's when your mind shifts gears. Like, OMG, I'm not playing house anymore, I'm a real live grown up!!! Happened to me.
Here's to being young at heart!
2007-03-12 21:57:06
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answered by emilsignia 5
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you have to learn to be secure with ur self to concure fears or rejection. u have to first love who u r (ik that soudns stupid but its true) and then take on real tasks such as movin out gonig to college working to support your self. dont rush to grow up though enjoy being a kid with less responsiblities while you can becasue soon u have ur whole life to be grown up
2007-03-12 21:54:49
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answered by muddsoccer4 1
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