My fiance actually helps me take care of her, and out in public people think she is his because he treats her that way. Her real dad left me a month after I had her, and has only seen her about 5 times in the past 18 mths. She calls Josh daddy, but now her bio dad is starting to kinda get involved. Josh I think is worried about us getting hurt again... any suggestions on how to handle it?
2007-03-12 14:40:26 · 9 answers · asked by Trista R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it is sweet of your fiance to be concerned but your daughter's dad had the right to see her
2007-03-12 14:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Catie Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance has to learn to deal with it, because it will happen most of your lives together. He is suppose to treat her as his own because she would not have a normal life if she wants one. Talk to the dad when your fiance is around and don't hide anything from him. Make sure he calls when your fiance is around and tell him that. Yes you will hurt but you are handling that and josh doesn't have to know how much you hurt about it he just has to know that he is the most important person in your life and you daughter is 2nd. Your daughter doesn't have to know that, but she needs to know she is loved,, take care Heather
2007-03-12 14:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Josh needs to understand that her biological father has rights. They may not be in line with what he believes, but they are rights none the less. You all need to be honest with each other about the situation. If her bio dad wants to be involved too, what's wrong with that? How wonderful for your daughter to have two loving fathers in her life! If you think her biological father is going to hurt your daughter by letting her down, you need to sit down with him and make some decisions about how to deal with the situation.
2007-03-12 14:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by ladypoohbear1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to Josh that you love him and understand his fears. Also tell him that the biological father will never replace him in your daughter's life. Finally, tell him that it is important to you that your daughter knows all three of her parents (you, the father, and Josh), but you are being careful and are not planning on allowing him to hurt you or your daughter--and you are planning on stopping communication if it looks like things are turning sour.
2007-03-12 14:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it rather is bizarre he will pay new child help yet would not have any touch together with her. If he weren't paying new child help and did no longer have touch together with her, you in all probability would not could desire to do something different than bypass to courtroom and ask a desire to do away together with his rights. yet if you consider that he would not take the the time to have a dating together with her, it nonetheless may well be merely that easy. Get suggestion from a lawyer. It shouldn't value plenty for that. so a procedures as him threatening suicide, do no longer enable that be a attention. he's in all probability merely attempting to regulate you. one ingredient regardless of the indisputable fact that, its quite no longer a good option to have your fiance undertake your daughter until once you're actual married. do no longer positioned the cart previously the pony.
2016-10-02 00:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by cushion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone on here is giving good answers but maybe you should get some outside help in this matter. Do you have an older relative or pastor who your fiance would listen to? Someone older who has "been there, done that"? Maybe someone older whom he respects might make him see the light. Good luck!
2007-03-12 15:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by lalasaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you have to communicate with the child's father for the good of the child. Tell him you understand that he has concerns and tell him that he has nothing to worry about. tell him that he can trust you. And promise him that you will tell him if you feel there is any need for him to be concerned about anything.
2007-03-12 14:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jacqueline M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really wish to allow the bio dad to get involved, you should set down rules...although personally, i would not have anything to do with him anymore since like you said, he left you.
2007-03-12 14:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should prolly tell him that she need to know her real dad evn tho he is doing a really good job with her or something like that
2007-03-12 14:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋