lately me and my boyfrend have been fighting a lot. the reason is because i want to be with him all the time and he doesnt want to be with me all the time. He wants to have his 'me' time and time to hang out with his friends. he says he loves me but everytime we argue i feel like hes slowly losin interest in me. what do i do to keep him around? i tried to stay away from him and give him his space but i ended up missing him like crazy. i can tell that this relationship is not workin out what can i do to turn this around? plsz help
2007-03-12 14:12:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess it is about managing time with him and yourself. You need to let him go and do his thing and at the same time, try to do things with your own friends and maybe go out for a movie with a girlfriends to occupy the time so that you would not miss him so much. Learn to be independent and live your own life. Try a new hobby or sports. Take up some new courses to upgrade yourself and maybe go on a short holiday with your family.
2007-03-12 14:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you need to give your bf space, he as well as you, need time for yourself. There's nothing wrong with spending less time together, it will make you miss him and make the time you guys have more special. You should get a hobby or something to occupy your time when you're apart, like working out or some classes or something, it can't be all about you, and if you keep smothering him, he will eventually lose interest in the relationship!
2007-03-12 14:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this might sound blunt but...leave the men alone!!! if he wants some me time, you should let him. I know from personal experiences that men needs their own time, and if you don't then they will loose intrest. Go out with some friends or go do something you really enjoy so you won't end up missing him. I know you will miss him and think about him every minute but everyone needs their space....give your boyfriend his
2007-03-12 14:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him his space, your not married. If you keep bugging him like that he will just avoid you all together. Sounds like he isn't ready for a full time relationship yet.
Give him so space and some time and he will be yours for ever. Guys need time alone sometime to just be with friends and let it all out . trust me I know I am a guy and married to,It took me some time and a couple big arguments to realize she just loved me and when your young you feel trapped when you can't hang out with your friends alone.
It takes trust to make it
2007-03-12 14:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by FlameBoy2210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well give him his space. You can go out and see a movie or do something fun with your friends to take your mind off of him. If you still argue and see that your relationship is slipping then maybe its time to move on.
Hope everything turns out okay.
2007-03-12 14:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by aj_harness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem here is that he doesnt know what life would be like without you because your always with him and the other problem is that you dont give him space because most people do like to have a little alone time to think about their life. kind of imagin yourself in his position but instead of him being there all the time around you its your mom.
2007-03-12 14:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop smothering him for one.
The more u r with him, the farther u will push him away.
Give him his time. Let him breathe.
I am like that. It doesnt mean i dont want to be with my bf, but I just gotta have my space. Even if its just to the grocery store and back.
Lighten up hun.
The tighter u hold him, the harder he will pull away.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 14:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was the same way when we were dating, and during the first couple years of marriage. It was nice at times, but smothering at times as well.
Eventually she backed off, and I got closer (so she says).
It takes time to calm down, and...as my wife says..."enjoy the silence." (meaning we don't have to be talking every second we're together to enjoy each other's company)
If you guys stay together, perhaps it will be like it is with us (my wife & I). To be honest, I miss her being clingy from time to time. Human nature is funny.
2007-03-12 14:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change him.It sounds like you need a great deal of attention that he is not ready or willing to give yet.Either be happy with him the way he is or get someone else.The only person you can change is you.
2007-03-12 14:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
play it cool for a while when he goes to hang out with his friends you should go with yours. and also don't argue to much because one day in that arguement he'll probably say that it's over between you 2. do u really want that to happen?
2007-03-12 14:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋