GIRLS: What would you think of a guy after?

Question

talking to him and he seemed very shy/nervous and didn't have much to say..the conversation was pretty awkward and you both didn't really talk about much. You both liked each other before this and this was the first time you actually talked to each other.

How would you feel about this guy afterwards? Would you think there is no connection between you two? Or thought he really liked you thats why he was so shy, but then what? what if you two hook up and its always that awkward when you talk? or do you have faith that he will open up to you eventually?

I want to know these things because im a really shy guy at first but i have a great personality once you get to know me..but getting to that point is hard because im very shy when it comes to the small talk at the beginning of a relationship.

Alright to clarify a little bit..im a very shy person at first with not much to say but once we get closer im actually a pretty outgoing funny guy but the problem is many girls dont give me a chance after the first awkward conversation

Answer 1

If I really liked this guy, this is how I would feel:

I would be of course, nervous, in that situation and when it was over, I would review everything I said and everything you said and try to analyze it to see if you dropped any good/bad/unsure hints on how much you liked me (because us girls always need to be reassured!). Then I would go over everything I said in detail and how you responded to it and then I would say, "Oh man! That would have been a good thing to say if I'd thought of it at the time!" A couple of times. Then I'd move on and think about it a couple of times later on in the day.

As to the actual conversation, if I could tell you were nervous, I'd think it was cute and to try to get you to like me more, I'd look forward to the next conversation so I could be less nervous - therefore making you less nervous - therefore making you more comfortable around me - thus, making you like me even more (again, a girl's needs). I would feel the same about this guy. I would think whatever I thought about him before (he's got such a cute smirk, I love the curls in his hair, etc.) if that was the first time we've talked. I would think he was shy. If we hooked up and it was awkward, I'd consider other good things about him and then I'd probably continue with him but just make sure I'd get him to feel comfortable around me. And I would have faith.

Don't worry about the beginning small talk, she's probably nervous too! Make her laugh, ask her "would you rather" questions - those are fun! I'm 15 btw so if she's that age, I've got good perspective.

Answer 2

I go for nerdy guys and nerdy guys also tend to be shy. I give them the benefit of the doubt with regard to those early awkward conversations. Just relax and hope that she's the same way.

It really sounds like you need to get to know more girls as friends, though, before you try to strike up awkward date conversations. If you haven't already, make a few female friends, build a good relationship and see where it goes once they know you well enough to see that great personality of yours. And hey, if she isn't interested, you'll probably meet more people (girls!) through her. When her friends ask her why you're so weird/awkward, she can say, "Oh, he's awesome, actually. You just have to get to know him." Then their curiosity will be piqued long enough for you to make a good impression and get to know them....etc. Girls sometimes trust their friends more than they trust their own instincts. A good recommendation can go a long way.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Personally, I would just figure he was shy and nervous and I'd probably understand so I'd have hope that eventually he'd open up. I don't open up very quickly, myself. To help you keep a conversation going, I would say when in doubt, ask questions. That would get her to do most of the talking and you wouldn't really have to say much. Ask her anything you want to know about her, but don't get too personal. Hopefully, she'll respond with some questions of her own and that should keep your conversation going. Good luck!

Answer 4

be honest with her.

you both like each other. tell her that you're just a shy guy but you'll try not to be so that she wont feel that you are boring. on the girl's part, i think she'l feel a little weird because for the first time you hung was not maybe the both of you were expecting.

the next is up to you buddy, be sincere to her and she'll understand. all your anxities shows that you really care for her. dont let them consume you! be yourself.

if she really likes you in the same way then you'll get past this stage. go with the flow. remember the cliche: if you guys are meant to be together then you will be. have faith =]

Answer 5

I personally think the nice guys are the sweetest. If the girl really likes you, she would take the time a find out about your great personality. You might have a time with girls that are more open at first so that you can talk to each other without awkward silences until you feel more comfortable around her. Good luck to you, mate. :)

Answer 6

Honestly, as long as I don't have to carry the entire conversation for the rest of the relationship I would be happy. Show you care and you are into her...and it will be fine. Good Luck. And whatever you do don't lie and pretend to be someone your not....that never goes over well. Be yourself and the person the takes the time to get to know your "otherside" is the one that will be worth it in the end.

Answer 7

I can speak for myself.

I love shy guys and here´s why.

They are a lot more respectful and they aren´t only looking at you clivage, but in your eyes, looking at who you are.

Even if the talk doesnt flow at first, smart girls aways try harder cause they know there´s a lot more to see.

Most of times, are very nice and intelligent guys. Someone to a good and serious relationship.

Answer 8

Well anyone is going to be shy talkn to a guy or a girl!! You might try askn small question just to get the conversation started find out what she likes to do and go from there not every girl is just going to come out to a guy she just started talking to because it is awkward for alot of us....take it from me i like a guy who can ask me about me and so he can know me more so i can ask him about hisself!! Hope this sorta helpd!!

Answer 9

i sort of like shy guys.. mostly because i am shy as well and shy people can have a sort of instant click.. that both of them feel yet it is never spoken of.... shy guys are always the good ones and it may take girls your age (im guess you are a teeager) a while to realize it.. but before you know it they will realize just what a catch you are :)

Answer 10

guys that are shy are actually alot less intimidating...i like guys that are shy, i would have just talked a whole lot to you....unless i thought you didnt like me or wasnt interested than i would have felt awkward and probably wouldnt want to hang out with you again.