I have a really big problem my bf wants to have sex and I haven't told him I am pregnant I already told my parents and his parents and they won't tell him I have to but my problem is how do I tell him that when he wants to have sex again tonight????? PLEASE HELP ME!!!! I don't know what to do or say.... I am 16 and I can't believe this is happening to me.
2007-03-12 13:52:22 · 26 answers · asked by Have_A_BIG_PROBLEM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just straight up tell him. Sounds like perhaps you are bit too immature to even be having sex in the first place, let alone a baby.
2007-03-12 13:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you're too young for all this, your "really big problem" is not how to tell your bf he can't have any tonight, but how to strighten out this mess, tell your bf to go **** himself until you can get this fixed. What's up with all the parents? This sounds a bit like a joke which would be better than the situation you describe. Your bf is guilty of a crime in most states, you need to get counseling and guidance from someone other than your parents. Good luck.
2007-03-12 21:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by melowd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first... Do you want to have sex with your bf?
After you answer that question, the rest will probably start to fall into place.
For example, do you want to tell your bf that you are pregnant? It is you that is pregnant, not him.
Next, have you done a pregnancy test? Do you have a clinic close by where you can get some medical advice? Did you do your own pregnancy test? Sometimes, they are not all that accurate.
Go to a medical clinic. Get some medical advice for you. Hopefully, they will also give you some advice about sexually transmitted diseases, and pregnancy, and birth control options.
Once again, I am going to repeat this... you do NOT have to do anything you do not want to do... so the real questions for you, is WHAT DO YOU WANT? You are allowed to make choices about what you do.
If you don't want to have sex, say NO. If you are unsure if you want to have sex, say NO, I NEED MORE TIME TO DECIDE. You get to say. You have the right to decide.
good luck girl.
2007-03-12 21:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Telly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he wants to have sex there is no problem because you are already pregnant. The best thing to do is say, I am pregnant and yes I love you , but I wanted you to know before we get more involved. If he loves you now these feelings may never change but he may be very hurt by it. If you want to have sex and he still wants to and everything else like birth control is taken care of then enjoy. If he really cares this will not change his mind. Talk its the most important thing in a relationship, take care Heather
2007-03-12 20:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gonna have to just come right out and tell him. It should be easier to tell him than either of your parents. Just curious though, what does him wanting sex tonight have to do with this? Your already pregnant, so you don't have to worry about that again for a few months.
2007-03-12 20:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the problem exactly? I mean your pregnant at 16. That is a consequence of having unprotected sex. You told everybody but him...are you afraid he is going to leave you or something? I mean what is the problem! Just tell him...quit making it so complicated I mean I know its not easy but It could always be a lot harder...Good Luck! If you need to talk or explain etc....message through yahoo answers.
2007-03-12 21:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! this has to be a confusing time for you. I would tell him (before you see him) that y'all need to talk. When you see him go for a little walk and tell him. He is obviously going to freak out and what not but go over your plan and explain to him that you have already told the parents. Hopefully things will get better. Good luck!
2007-03-12 20:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down sweetie and breathe. Everything is going to be okay. Tonight when you see him, tell him you need to talk. Calmly sit him down at the table or on the couch and tell him that you're pregnant. You're surprised, you're scared, and you need his support for this to work out okay. Im sorry you have to go throught his but in the end it will teach to you use protection or stay abstinent. They dont tell you that in school just for laughs. Together you two and your families with decide on the best course of action. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-12 20:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So now that you are pregnant you don't want to have sex? Why not? You are not going to get pregnant and you need to tell the babies father, you and your family shouldn't be going through this alone.
2007-03-12 20:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex with him even if you're pregnant is not supposed to be a problem. unless you have a very sensitive pregnency. but i guess you're only 2-3 onths pregnant, that's why he hasn't noticed yet. so it won't be a problem yet. but you have to tell him that you're pregnant. straight up. well he has to know what he did, right? you both have to face the consequences of your actions.
2007-03-12 21:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋