I'm a hindu guy who has been dating a beautiful muslim girl for the past 2-3 months, and we're totally crazy about each other. and i know you're thinking 2-3 months is nothing, but it is when you spend almost everyday with them. But the thing is that we both know that we're holding back our feelings for the sake of our families. we have to make sure we dont get caught doing anything in public that shows we're a couple, otherwise you know what will hit the fan when a family member finds out... should we sacrifice something that could potentially be so amazing..?? or is there another option besides running away together that im just totally blind in seeing..??
2007-03-12 13:48:53 · 11 answers · asked by Sharni P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe I'm just idealistic but I do think love conquers all. If you love each other, you should get married. Tell your parents that you love each other and that this is what you want. If they cut you off for being with the person you love, they were never truly your family to begin with. Who needs a family that only loves you conditionally?
The situation is very similar with intermarriage of all sorts of different groups. My opinion: We're all people and shouldn't be so closed minded.
I understand that you don't want to alienate your family. You don't need to completely choose between them and her. You can marry her and wait for them to cool off. Most of the time, when a couple bears grandchildren suddenly they become a lot more welcome.
2007-03-12 13:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by lillyth17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not a muslim or a Hindu...but I can appreciate you dilemma.
My advice to you is that you both must sit down...especially you as the man of the relationship...and think through the consequences of getting married to her and the full ramifications.
Also, what will be your final religion as a family when you both get married?
Yes, follow your heart...but be prepared and ready for the worst scenerio and discuss every facet with her and get her opinion.
I also believe there are others who are already married in this situation. Contact them if possible and find out how best to handle your own relationship.
Happy Marriage...you both deserve the best in life.
2007-03-12 14:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Dazanix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does love not come from your creator?
you must be yourself and pursue your honest love.
however, in respect for your families you should be patient, not rush.
perhaps a middle path - agree a date for (six months? or even one year?) from the day you met. If at that time you both are sure that you want to be married, go announce engagement. the fact that you have waited, and lasted some time will let them know that you are serious.
It may be helpful if each of you take one most trusted relative into your confidence now, so that they may testify to how long you have waited, and will stand with you when you make the announcement. It is good not to be alone.
a long engagement (another six months?) might also be good to give them all time to get used to it. also again proving that you are serious -and not a threat. That is, unless one or both of you may be in physical danger.
if you truly love each other, a few months is not so long to wait.
2007-03-12 15:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by netizen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you have to answer to your self is: is my religion most important than your fellings? and i think your girl most answer that question to herself to. after that, maybe you should think ahead. what kind of religion would your childs may have, cause let me tell you this, if you are not thinking in having your life with this girl, i think its not worth the pain you WILL cause to your love ones. but if you are serious, i would said, GO AHEAD! its your life, not your family´s, i mean your parents have live THEIR lives, you should be entitle to live your OWN. so i wish you the best and remember that love will hold you forever.
2007-03-12 13:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Phoebe M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this day and age.. I think you are not the first oen to find themselve in a situation like yours. By all means go by your heart. If they love you they will understand
2007-03-12 13:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Papabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you man!! If you really love each other enough to face any circumstances that could enter your way, it just means that you are capable of marrying her.
2007-03-12 13:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by FREMONDSHEGEM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i certainly wouldn't go to the wedding. they blew up buildings for cartoons, imagine what they would do in an interracial marriage...
2007-03-12 13:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by canadians_are_imbeciles1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my country (Trinidad & Tobago) you really don't even want to go there. There is no way - NONE WHATSOEVER!
2007-03-12 13:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really who cares what other people think?? oh that's right...everyone does...screw them and marry whoever you want to!
2007-03-12 13:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by rat_leg danny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what other people think about it,it's your life.
2007-03-12 13:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by *Lime~~~~~Green* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋