I have a friend who messed around with another guy (no sex) and she told her boyfriend what happened right away, her boyfriend will only stay with her if she calls up the other guys girlfriend and tell her what they did. I disagree with this and think it is a bad idea. Serious answers only please! She had a little to much to drink, the other guy started to kiss her and she put an end to it after she realized what was going on.
So should she call the guys girlfriend or not? She already agreed to never talk to that guy again, shouldn’t that be enough?
2007-03-12 13:46:31 · 11 answers · asked by Rosie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh I should add, they were drinking because he just found out that he has testicle cancer, he is still very young and is going to have to have booth of his b***'s removed
2007-03-12 13:59:56 · update #1
I Think if her boyfriend knows thats ok, she sould not call the girlfriend. Its just going start a whole big mess with her and the girl. The boyfriend should be lucky that she was being honest. I think she shoud feel ok about telling the person that matters the most. If anything the guy should tell his own girlfriend.
2007-03-12 14:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend wasn't the initiator, and she put an end to it, then what does she have to lose by calling her partner's girlfriend? If it wasn't her fault, she shouldn't feel any hesitation to tell that same truth to someone else. It also depends how important the boyfriend is to her. I don't believe that controlling your significant other is ethical...HOWEVER, I don't think your friend's boyfriend is being too extreme. After all, your friend didn't HAVE to have as many drinks as she did...and if she hadn't, then maybe the night would have taken a different course. Every choice you make will produce a consequence, good or bad. It should be your friend's responsibility and priority to make any possible amends. After all, if the situation were turned around, and her boyfriend had gotten active with another girl...don't you think your friend would deserve to know? It's not about convenience; it's about being fair and treating others how YOU would like to be treated.
2007-03-12 20:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that if this person seriously knows that they have done wrong and they actualy told their boyfriend, that it was already brave of them and they should be able to leave it at that. Maybe though they should go talk to the guy they "messed around" with though to make sure both of them knew what was happening and that it should never happen again. I think that the guy who took part in the "messing around" should have told his girlfriend!
2007-03-12 20:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreeing to not talk to that person again should be enough. Although i do see why his GF should find out i mean her BF was the one that made a move, not your Friend. Telling the guys gf that he is cheating ( or trying to ) is just the right thing to do.
Your friend or someone should tell that guys GF, Your friend isn't in the wrong and has done everything she thought was right. Stopping it and telling her BF.
2007-03-12 20:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sorta Undead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. i highly doubted.. there's prob more than went on than what she told for sure. As for the part where she'll never do it again, I find that hard to believe too. But yea, if I were her bf I would give her another chance..nothing more is needed to be done. But I would keep a close eye on her as well, and if she does mess up once more then- its over!
2007-03-12 20:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ichigo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a bad idea. I was in a similar situation myself I was at a party without my boyfriend. I had too much to drink and my boyfriend's best friend started hitting on me I stopped it immediatly and I had not told my boyfriend and I do not talk to his best friend anymore.
2007-03-12 20:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by april h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, she should call her. If you had a boyfriend who cheated on you, wouldn't you want to know? It's an unfortunate situation, but if this were me and I felt really bad, then I would do the right thing and let the other girl know....
2007-03-12 20:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think she should tell her. but thats not fair to the girlfriend she should make they boyfriend tell his girlfriend
2007-03-12 20:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by TaraLynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thnk u should do it for her and ur boyfriend its only fair
2007-03-12 20:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by aobgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends br is goin to get her beat up or just into a fight ! and and i think that if she was drunk then she realli didnt understand wat she was doing... but i wasnt there !
2007-03-12 20:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by {to cloose is close enough} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋