It is my birthday. We have dinner reservations at 8:30, I work until 6. Now my boyfriend said we are stopping by his bosses party because " we have to". NO. it is MY birthday, we had these plans for 2 months! He says we have to go so he doesn't look bad, I say tell them no, my girlfriends birthday is tonite, can't go!!!! Now he wants to move dinner to 9! NO, who eats at 9???? I'm mad and he is calling ME selfish because I said it's my day!!!! What the??? Should I leave him, or is he right? Am I being selfish? But it's my birthday dinner!!!! We don't have time to go to his lame bosses house, plus i am more important than his stupid boss and work friends!!!!!! Help guys, whats your opinions
2007-03-12 13:45:17 · 17 answers · asked by Jayme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Will you stop waining already!I hate when people cant make up their minds!do what you want to do!Nobody can tell you what to do.I don't know ok!
2007-03-13 14:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may well depend on how serious you are about each other. If you plan for a long term relationship then you should help him out with the boss. If he does not show up the boss could 'hold it' against him....not good for future promotions. Is 30 minutes really that big of a deal?? A loving relationship is all about compromise, caring and communication. Good luck and Happy Birthday!
2007-03-12 20:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by Maiden Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this one is kinda both of your faults, so what you have to go to his boss's house, do you really have to stay that long? and work is kinda important, its how there is food on the table and a roof over his head. but, he should also remeber that its your birthday, but eating at nine isnt that bad. yes, you kinda are being a little selfish. this are two important things. You can go to his boss's house, then say you have perivous plans. next you guys can go out to dinner and celebrate your birthday. Compromise! thats the best way in a relationship. just remember there is 2 of you in this relationship.
Good luck, and Happy birthday!
2007-03-12 20:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by iluvromey! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right. My husband does **** like that all the time. He'd do anything to impress his boss and he thinks he doesn't have to work hard to impress me anymore. If this upsets you, let me tell you that he probably wont get any better. I think you should leave him, because if he's acting this way while you're still dating, imagine how much it's going to suck in a few years when he's staying at work all night to decorate a bunch of stupid pie charts and you're at home alone with a baby or two desperately craving adult social interaction.
Also, I doubt his boss would fire him for missing his party to take his girlfriend out on her birthday. He's got to be embellishing, which is innappropriate and deceitful. Bad boyfriend behavior.
2007-03-12 20:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by pinktowhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre both selfish.Love looks out for the other not for self first.He should have explained to your boss he had a date with you first and then if it wasnt too late he would stop by and if he wasnt there by 8:30 or 9 he hopes he would understand.If the boss is a nice man, he probably would.Then on the other hand,he is trying to stay in his bosses good graces to move up,also his boss may be vindictive and can make his job worse.If this is just a one time event then forgive him,if its a constant pattern, you might want to find someone who isnt married to their job.
2007-03-12 20:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutly right! It is YOUR birthday and you arent being selfish by wanting to enjoy it. You could however stop by for a few minutes 10 at the most, then go to your dinner, dont let him ruin your special night!
2007-03-12 20:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Barbie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want him to be able to pay for the dinner, he needs to keep his job. You sound very spoiled. Sure, it's your day but you should suck it up for 30 minutes while he goes to his boss's party to earn the money that you spend.
2007-03-12 20:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so right for being mad!!
this guy totally doesn't respect you. gather a girlfriend and you two go to dinner without this guy. let him go to his party by himself. it is your birthday so he should do what you want, not the other way around.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
2007-03-12 20:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by cajin_dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are completely right your not being selfish you deserve a birthday dinner with your boyfriend. on your birthday you choose when and where and if hes not cool with that then screw him let him go to dinner with his boss
dana
2007-03-12 20:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by jocelyn c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. Limit the stop at the party to 10 minutes or less.
And tell him to stop being such a wuss about how his co-workers view him. They're human; I'm pretty sure they'll understand him not showing up.
2007-03-12 20:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to compromise if you love this person and if his job is on the line here. You can go and stay for an hour and tell them you have other plan. Do it for him, if you do love him and plan to be with him in the future. Otherwise, you can tell him goodbye.
2007-03-12 20:53:14 · answer #11 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋