ok I just started going out with him. and right before we started going out he ended with his ex of 4 months. but i think he is still talking to her and it is scary to think about!!! She just can not get over him and she wont leave him alone. he tells me that he doesnt like her but He had strong feelings about her before and still feel like some of those feelings are still there!!! what are your thoughts an what are some things i should ask him about her??? im not afraid to ask him anything so pleaseeeeeeee help!!! its kinda making me nervous and also when we are on the phone i can hear him texting and i think he is talking to her!!!!
2007-03-12 13:40:33 · 11 answers · asked by ~~ny giants fan~~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You SHOULDN'T ask him anything and show you're nervous about it. I know it maybe easy to say, but try to trust him, it's the only thing that can help. If you try to kinda follow him all the time and see if he doesn't talk to her, it will only annoy him. The fact that he talks to her doesn't mean that those feelings he has is love or anything like it. Most probably he just feels sorry for hurting her (she still is not over him). But the guy won't walk out on you because of that, he loves you so trust him and you'll be fine.
Good luck
2007-03-13 02:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I like the fact that you are a NY Giants fan. As for your situation, you need to tell him that it bothers you that he is still talking with his ex. This is a sign of disrespect. I would never do that. You need to let him know that if he doesn't stop talking to her, then you will leave him. Give him this ultimatum and see how he reacts. If he gets mad, then he is still feeling her. This means he will cheat on you with her if you stay with him.
If you just started seeing him, then you won't be hurt too bad. Better it be now than later.
2007-03-12 20:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by insidehomerun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not good! if you really do feel he is cheating then you should either end it or just sit him down and talk to him! figure out why they brock up and if it waz not because he didnt want to be with her then you should no that he does still like her. maybe he likes you more but that does not change the fact that he still has feelings for her and maybe even still loves her! all you can really do is sit down with him and talk. if while you are talking he gets nervous or seems to be lieing you should end it! what sort of a relationship is it if you cant trust in him!
2007-03-12 20:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy, if you think he is texting or talking to his ex, he is and the reason he is is he likes her, if he has been with her sexually in the past, he wants to have that on the side whenever both of you have a disagreement or whenever he wants fish rather than the same old meat. Let him know you want to be with him if you want to be and tell him such things should not be crossing his mind as you'll give him whatever he wants. And if you don't want to be with him tell him, STEP!
2007-03-12 21:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by brainbox 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just speak up to him and say are you still interested in her and do you want to go back with her. Tell him you don't want to get into a serious relationship and get really attached to find out he is still interested in her and trying to work things out with her by texting her or any other way. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 20:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just broke up with someone who did a lot of flirting with other girls i'm pretty sure, but he still only really had eyes for me and we were fine, that not why i broke up with him. if he feels strong enough about you it won't matter if he still has very little feelings for the other girl. he'll eventually see that you're the one he wants to be with and he'll get over the other girl. if he doesn't, hes not the kinda guy you want anyway.
2007-03-12 20:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by Brianna T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. if you arent afraid to tell him anything, the best is to let your feelings out./
2007-03-12 20:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ F@$H!0N ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just leave him alone. He sounds like he has to much baggage.
2007-03-12 20:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur just lucky you have a boyfriend..if hes worth it, he will not do anything with anyone else!
2007-03-12 20:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest and tell him how u feel
2007-03-12 20:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋