Yesterday, the temperature here in N.C. was in the low 70's and winds were about 15 miles per hour. We are still having cold weather every other day. And it is still WINTER! Would you let your child go outside in their bathing suits and play with the water hose? Would you let your child get wet knowing that at the end of the week, the high is going to be 50 degrees? My husbands ex-wife did. Today, the youngest came home early from school with a sore throat and stuffy head. Hmmm . . . wonder why? The ex thinks we are crazy and that she know what she is doing. Everyone we've tell that story to says the same thing - "Are you serious?" What do you think?
2007-03-12 13:40:32 · 9 answers · asked by jfoxie 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The kids only go to their mom's two weekends a month. She doesn't call or try to get them more. We let here know that we did not approve and she told us that we are crazy and that she knows how to take care of her kids. She doesn't even pay her child support.
2007-03-12 13:51:10 · update #1
She makes them stay outside all summer long. They girls told us that she will not let them come in during the day, except for a little break, even when it is 90 degrees.
2007-03-12 13:53:11 · update #2
I think the issue here is that the kids were not only out in the cold but they were getting wet. Staying out all day in wet clothes (in my opinion) is only asking for trouble. It's why people die of exposure in extreme circumstances. Make sure that she has appropriate clothing for them but it sounds to me like she just wants them out of her hair. Do take the advice of asking your doctor his opinion and then at least it's also on record. There seems to be lots of issues here, family mediation could help and may save the kids from feeling like they are playing one parent against the other. Good luck, it must be horrible to have to worry about your kids especially when they are with a person who should be treasuring every single moment with them, not shutting them out of what should be a second home.
2007-03-12 14:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know, germs cause illness, not cold weather or going outside with a wet head. That being said, 70 degrees is too darn cold for a kid to be playing outside like it's summer time.
Oh, and for the person who suggested supervised visits....are you insane? Just because the ex is a dingbat doesn't mean she's endangering the children in a way that would call for supervised visits. I would know, my ex is supervised and it takes a heck of a lot more than going to court and getting it in writing to change a court order - which is what a parenting time order is. You have to file a motion and represent yourself in front of a judge. It's not easy, you need serious proof that the other parent is unfit.
2007-03-12 20:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by lew22204 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the ex is right... No I'm not a dim whit.
I guess you don't allow your kids to go outside without a ton of sun screen on during the summer. I guess you tell the kids not to get dirty when they go outside to play.
Letting your kids do adventurous stuff tends to spawn a healthy active kid.
The ex obviously didn't hurt the kid. My son goes out in the rain with paints rolled up and no shoes on, walking in the ditches looking for crawdads. They play football in the rain all year.. He is as healthy as a kid can be.
Let the kids be kids. Playing out in the rain is a memorial experience. You can't tell me you never played in the rain. It may have been 70 but I bet they were not out there that long and got dried off and was good to go.
I've seen many different types of kids that have different types of parents.
Being a kid like that helps them become immune to all the illnesses that kids that have to stay inside all the time get. Your body learns how to fight off problems when you are in different situations. But if you don't give the body a chance to fight different things it will not know what to do when it finally meets the elements.
Your a good step mom because you care so much but look into what I said or call a family doc and ask them.
2007-03-12 21:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being cold can't give your child an illness. The child already had the virus in his/her system and would have gotten it anyway. I do agree with you that 70 degrees is a bit low to be playing outside in a bathing suit with water. Ultimately, it's her child and she can allow him/her to do what he/she wants so long as there's no abuse involved. She could come back and say that when it's 90 degrees outside, it's too hot for her kids to be playing outside when they're with you. I'd just drop it and focus on taking care of the child.
2007-03-12 20:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd be watching the ex. She sounds like she needs supervised visits. I certainly wouldn't let my children during winter in their bathing suits and playing in the water. I don't think most normal people would. I'm mom to 3. I'd be letting her know I wasn't pleased with her behavior and if it continued I'd go to court and get it put in writing she has to have supervised visits til she completes at least 3 parenting classes.
2007-03-12 20:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here in Michigan we use a "wind chill" factor--temp and wind. Today it was 50 degrees, but with the wind, it was 38. I think you can find a wind chill chart on line. No bathing suit with a windchill at 38.
2007-03-12 20:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by mistrhistre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned 12 years ago that my ex-wife was nuts (actually, she's my husb's ex, but I pay her, too!). She thinks the kids will secretly love her more because she says "yes" to stupid crap like that...but I've seen the future, my friend. She doesn't realize that she's teaching her kids to make unwise choices, that "it's OK, as long as it's FUN!" My adult step-daughter seems to have no common sense, and I know why. GOOD LUCK, stay strong.
2007-03-12 20:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by momof2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is terrible... even in arizona where it is in the upper 80's the kids arent playing with the water hose.
2007-03-12 20:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jule 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry no, my kids wear their winter coat until the temp stays up there. Is she outta her mind? Sorry you have to deal with this
2007-03-12 20:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by kristi_rost2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋