Ok so there's this guy I REALLY like....But he likes my best friend...More than anything, but she's dating my cousin. And all he ever talks about is how much he cares about her, and how much he loves her....And it hurts so much!! He's like the sweetest guy, and we talk about everything, but I wish he could just understand how much I like him.....
2007-03-12 13:36:54 · 12 answers · asked by A.J. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whoa it looks that u know him very well, i think he's a friend of yours dont you?, friendship has puted u on a step more close to him and u could make ur move, but 1st at all tell him that she's dating ur cousin, he'll forget about her, wait until that, i mean i think he worth's it, then u make ur move, things couldn't go on as u thinked but well at least u'll know u have tried, & u'll have the satisfaction of that, not surrendering and going ahead, by my point of view he notices more ur friend than u, but things may change if he doesn't look at ur friend, trust me, that will be the better 4 everyone, luck with this one, don't let him go away
2007-03-12 13:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say whether he ever had any kind of relationship with your best friend besides worshipping her from afar, and you didn't say whether your best friend either encourages his feelings or actively tries to discourage him. In any event, however, it seems that YOU have a relationship with him. Granted, it's not the one you want, but please do recognize that having a girl he can "talk about everything" with is a pretty rare and awesome thing for a guy. I'd say continue to be a good friend. But, sure, it hurts to hear him talk about her. Ask him in a pleasant tone if the two of you could change the subject. Don't offer a reason: you don't have to. Also, if your best friend is aware of the situation, perhaps you could ask her to gently let him know that her heart is elsewhere. Good luck
2007-03-12 20:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by jacq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts to see the person you love, love your best friend. Your two options are play it safe and see nothing happen between the two of you and keep hurting... or take a chance and have a chance of getting the person you love... I've done the first and been hurt by it, tell him how you feel, it may not go how you want, but maybe it will... at least you will know how he feels, best of luck;)
2007-03-12 20:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh what a fix!
as i read your question i can sense your hurt!
sometimes being a good friend will help. listen to him. symphatize. laugh. or even cry. these things will bring you closer and will create a special bond between the two of you. it will not be easy, but it beats of running away from him while your heart yearns for him. at least, he will always run for you...
you can tell him how you feel about him. but his reaction might not be what you expect. so, in the meanwhile just be a friend and enjoy being that...
2007-03-12 20:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by shekinahjireh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a real tangle of emotions! There's not allot you can do, but to ride it out and see. Are you strong enough to take it? Or do you feel like it's best to take a little break for awhile? It wouldn't hurt, and it might just give your emotions a much needed rest. Either way, you,re the only one who can make that call. Good luck!!!!
2007-03-12 20:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try TALKING with him about the 'way you feel' toward him ... he should 'realize' that he may be 'looking in the wrong direction' and that the 'right girl' is the one he 'talks with' all the time ... but he can't know that, until you tell him that you LIKE HIM ... alot.
2007-03-12 20:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting him to notice you is simple, just make more eye-contact with him and maybe slip him a note telling me how you would like to be with him, more than just a friend.
2007-03-12 20:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Soaring 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him. if you let him know how you feel he may see you in a completely different light. sometimes guys are thick, ya know? they can't see what's right in front of them, even if it could be the best thing that's ever happened to them. so just come out and tell him, step into the light in front of him. you can't expect him to see you if you stand in your friend's shadow, right?
2007-03-12 20:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by brittaboo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him if he knows this info he might just change his mind about your cousin and concentrate on you.
2007-03-12 20:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by luckyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't do you any good. He's reaching for the sun and the moon won't do.
Advice: Wait until life gives him what he wants and wait until he scratches his itch.
2007-03-12 20:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋