I gave my fiance 2 weeks to find a job. It's now been 3 months. How do I leav w/out screwing myself over?

Question

I need to leave to become financially stable again with out shooting myself in the foot again.

Answer 1

Go home to your parents until you get on your feet, then no more shacking.Before you even date a guy, see if he has held a job at least a yr, lived at the same place over a yr, drives, not in trouble with the law,pays his bills on time etc.Chances are he has it together.If the guy doesnt work or has a different job every other week, or does dope,has a drinking problem, lives from place to place shax from place to place with whoever will take him in,is on probation, ignore him .Pretend he doesnt exist no matter how "hot" he is.There are decent guys who are good looking.Learn these things BEFORE you get serious then after he makes you his wife, THEN marry him and you wont be in the position youre in now sweetie.

Answer 2

Is he actively looking for a job or is he just sitting back and casually or not even really looking for one?

It can take anywhere from one day to two years to find the right job, let alone getting it. If he doesn't have a competitive resume, that is definitely going to cause problems.

Are you expecting him to get a certain job, or just any job, including a job at McDonald's? It's hard to judge if you're being unfair or if you've really tried and can't take it anymore. Just judging from the "fiance" status, it worries me that you want out because of this.

The best way leave would be to confront him, explain to him the direness of your situation, and remind him that you gave him two weeks to find a job and even let it go for three months. You would have to then see how he reacts to that, and go from there, but it doesn't help that you gave him an ultimatum of sorts and ended up not following through on it... shows him that you might be a pushover.

It is important to be open and honest with each other so there are no misunderstandings when you guys part.

Answer 3

Did he have a job when you first got engaged? If not, then what were you thinking about when you gave him two weeks to find a job? He playing games wit you and think that you are a joke. Three months and no job? It's going to be another before you tell him goodbye. Don't waste your time. Run and run fast.

Answer 4

oooooo thats some big problem. give him one more week and if he doesnt find a job, explain to him that u think that the relationship is hard without him having a job. tell him that you cant raise your own kids if you dont have a job since you wont have money. so try to help him find a job and see how it goes. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 5

Unless there's a reason he can't get a job...if he's really just lazy or using you...JUST LEAVE. Slip out the back jack. MAke a new plan stan. You know the song. If not, see link.

Answer 6

Well, your not giving much information. I assume you live with him? Is there anywhere you can move to, like a friend or relative? If he isn't looking for work and is being a bum, then I think your doing the right thing.

Answer 7

Just pack your stuff, if you have any utilities in your name then have them turned off and leave. If your fiance doesn't want to work now, then you 'll know how he'll be if you were to get married to him. Dump this loser. Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

How are you screwing yourself if he isn't contributing now? It would seem that he may be what is stopping you now. You need to reevaluate your engagement as well. You gave him too much time already.

Answer 9

Get your things together and tell him, you are not supporting him seeing how he can't get a job move out untill he does and follow through with it

Answer 10

Maybe HE should be the one to leave--can't you boot him out?
Otherwise, find a place with a room-mate to help with expenses.