Do you think we can handle it?

Question

My boyfriend and I are planning to get married in the next year ir si. ANd we also wanna have kids. well, My b/fs sister got her baby taken away today and she said she wanted us to get temp custody. I love this kid so much and i dont want him to go to some home the he doesnt know. Thats what happened to me and i got adopted when i was 3. I dont want him to go through that. My boyfriends dad doesnt think we can handle taking care of a baby, and just because we dont have our own. Do you think this is a bad idea, or what?

Answer 1

i think because you know this baby and he is family you should take hI'm and im sure you can handle it just fine and you will have other family members to help out

do it you will be fine

Answer 2

I think this is a fine idea, if you and your boyfriend agree that you think you can handle it. It would mean a lot to his sister and it would be so much better for the baby to stay in the family. I think the decision is up to you and your b/f, not his dad (although he may have some ideas that you should listen to before you decide). Good luck!

Answer 3

i think that if you are financially stable and own your own place or rent you should like you said you don't want him to go to someone he doesn't know so if you take him temporarily in your custody the worst that could happen is you decide you cant handle it and give up but i think its best that you give it your best shot i have a baby sister inlaw and if something ever happend i would fight to get her even though shes not mine and at times annoying i love her so much just like you love your b/fs sisters baby lots of luck to you
-nay-

Answer 4

As long as you have a healthy relationship, are financially stable, and both understand the gravity of raising a child, I say go for it. If you can take care of this child well, and he knows you, that's a lot better situation than him going with a stranger-where you really can't guarantee his safety. But, I'd also be prepared for the heartbreak it would cause to have him given back to his mother, and possible jealousy on her part.

Good luck.

Answer 5

In answering your question I would have to say "YES" it is not a good idea. It is not a bad idea for the reason that you are wanting to care for the child in question however you also mentioned that you are planning on marriage and that in itself is going to take some development and nurturing for the both of you. I would encourage you to build stability in your relationship first and enjoy that stability before having children. You owe it to yourself and because you are caring you owe it to this child. That would be my advice.

Best wishes,

Answer 6

if you and your boyfriend agree on it it is a wonderful idea but remember there are strict rules about visitation and spanking and she will have to pay you child support it is a big responsibility i was put in the same situation and was supposed to take temp custody of my brothers 3 children but his wife sabatoged the plan

Answer 7

Bad bad bad bad bad Idea
when she decides that she is a good mom again it wont take much for the courts to give the child back to her
and
if it fails as statistics show
you are hurt the child is hurt etc
sorry

Answer 8

It depends, do you think you are ready? Do you make enough money to support a child? Where will you live? It takes a lot, but if you feel you are ready then do it. GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

if you are able to financially and emotionally deal with it
I think it would be OK, think of it as a chance to see what it's like to have a baby.....and your right the baby deserves to be with people that he knows

Answer 10

no, definetly take this oppurtunity.
then you can see if you can truly handle each other.
you can take care of a kid and see if its something, that as a couple you can do.
good luck!