i have a 1yr old daughter and a i am pregnant wit twinz i am don't know if i can handle 3 kids i still go to skool and i am supposed to finish skool in may but i don't think i can further my education any more with twins on the way!!!!! i live wit my momma and she said after high skool i have to leave!!!!! Wat can i do? also do you think dat it would be mean if i gave one up for adoption and not the other~?
2007-03-12 13:19:15 · 12 answers · asked by Mommie of 3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The twins should not be separated
Look into adoption
There several types of open adoptions
Stay in school
Good luck
2007-03-12 13:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best to somehow finish high school. It may mean taking the rest of your courses during the summer or next year. Maybe you could get a GED, equivalent of a diploma, but you don't need to finish high school to get one. ...I definitely don't think you should give only one up for adoption. Every time you look at one, you would wonder about the other one... I suppose if you really don't think you will be able to provide and care for them, you could give them both up for adoption (as long as they are going to the same family)?? I just don't think twins should be separated.... Are there any services in your community that help out with young parents? Like financial or housing or childcare?? Or what about child support from the father? You could put that money towards renting an appartment room or something. Maybe you can convince your mom to let you stay for at least another 2 years until the kids are a bit older, and you can work to earn some money for a place of your own. Tell her it would be in the best interest for her grandchildren-- wouldn't she rather they be close to her than off somewhere that isn't as safe? I hope everything works out, ...you are having these twins for a reason.
2007-03-12 13:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Leanne J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really sound like you have a lot on your plate and not a lot of help. Do you have any family that is helpful or supportive? If so, they could make all the difference. You could finish school and provide for your children. If you are not good at school or not very motivated, you should sadly consider giving both up for adoption together. Having each other will really help them overcome some of the problems adopted children have. There are so many great families who cry themselves to sleep longing for a baby. The truth is, not many people overcome their circumstances. My 6 year old is an only child of two parents who waited until they were 30 to have him and had been married for 10 years. We are Christians and my husband makes about 95K /year. I am a stay at home mom. Can you see the difference in his opportunities in life. I don't mean to be mean, but either be one of those few who overcome their circumstances or let someone else raise them. If you are strong/determined enough, you can raise three children, finish school and be an amazing example to your children. You could get on welfare, get grants and students loans. Work the system, get as much assistance as you can and work hard. Find a church! Find a church! We Christians will be your family when you don't have one. Don't take advantage and don't lie to us and we will be your biggest supporters. If you can't do this, give your children the gift of a family that can care for them.
2007-03-12 13:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with mom of t... If you decide to give one up for adoption, it would be best to give up both. Right now, please concentrate on getting through your schooling. You will be finished in May, you said. As for having to leave after high school, you could apply for welfare, and find a place (subsidized would be better for your budget) or Section 8 housing. Or, after high school, you can get a job, start part time if needed. Full time would be the best money, and get your own place, again, you can, if your budget is really tight, if you qualify, you may be able to get seciton 8 housing. If not, then you will need an inexpensive (but decent) apt. Maybe find a room mate to help split the cost of rent, bills, and help splitting the chores around the house. If you give up one of the twins, it will be hard to decide which one, and they will both grow up knowing they have a part of them missing in their lives. You could, if you wanted to, request and arrange for an open adoption, for both of them, hopefully both adopted into the same home. You could request that they be adopted together too. If you keep the twins, you will be really super busy. You also will need to look at daycare costs as well. For when you are working. My heart goes out to you on this one. You have some really tough decisions to make, and important things to do. Oh, one other thing, if you choose to give up even one child for adoption, please, no matter if it's one or both, let them know of any medical conditions in your family (dad's too) that you may be aware of. I truly wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-12 13:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be ridiculous you cant give one up and not the other. Why dont you consider giving them both up for adoption?After that get yourself on some birth control so this doesn't happen again. I have twins and they are a lot of work, so if you decide to keep them be prepared and I hope that there is someone that can help you.
2007-03-12 13:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be mean,wrong and sad. I have twins and when they were born doc seperated them. The stopped eating started haveing breathing problems but I told them to put them back together and they did great. twins have a close bond that starts frome the beginning that is when you get pregnant with twins. If you dont want one then give them up together and make sure they stay together
2007-03-12 13:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to finish school ...... no matter how many children you have there is no way you can get a decent job without finishing (unless you get a GED, but I suggest that you try and finish)
as far as after you graduate you need to go to your local Department of Human Services and they can help get you set up....housing, food, childcare, etc.
they can even help you go to college if you want...it's not going to be easy~but you can do it!
As far as giving up one of the twins......I think that would be very sad and I believe the twins would feel like a part of them were missing all of their lives if you did that.
However this is up to you....I suggest you really think all of this over before you do something like that.
2007-03-12 13:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not split them up. Even one kid at 18 is hard to handle. My husband and I are looking to adopt twins and the agencies said it could take years but we don't want to have more then a three year age difference between our kids. We are waiting on a miracle
2014-03-18 12:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you being serious, I read some of your other questions. If you are due in July you would have known before your other questions that you asked that you were having twins. It's not respectful to ask questions that don't even apply to you or people you know.
2007-03-12 13:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Momma K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋