so my ex that i dated for 2 1/2 yrs and i have been getting quite close lately despite the fact that she has a bf. In her words, she's dating me on the side first without commitments to see if a relationship between us would work again. I love her but, I don't know if i can just be someones bf on the side, even if it is temporary. she says we're together but it obviously doesnt feel like it, especially when she's with the other guy. ppl are going to say she's using me but i don't think thats what's going on, she just doesn't know what to do. what bothers me the most is that i'm pretty sure that deep down she does want to be with me and only me, so the fact that she won't leave him right now sucks. she always complains about him and how she's sick of him and how bad he treats her. i always ask "then why stay, u know i treat u well"..to that she says "i'm just confused". we do kiss and mess around sometimes but i just don't want to share her like this. and advice on what i should do?
2007-03-12 13:14:38 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie just be there for her. I am going thruogh the same thing. I am this girl. I do love the ex but there has been so much mistrust that I dont know if I can. But I love so I want him in my life he is trying to make up for what he has done in the past but I still have a trust issue. You just need to contiune to be there for her and be her friend. It will all work out one way or the other. A true friend is the best way to start a relationship. So you just stand by her. She will come around. I am.
2007-03-12 13:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by hotmomma4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her make up her mind. Is she really confused or she doesn't want to leave him?
I think she's playing game here. There's no real relationship - put yourself on the other person's shoes and see how he feels or what he's going to do when he found out that she has a side bf? You either love the person or you don't; there is no room for guessing.
She's obviously playing with your head. If she really loves you, there's no looking back. She would have left the other person a long time ago.
You know the answer - but you don't want to hurt her feeling because you're afraid of losing her. Take care.
2007-03-12 20:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋