There is this guy and he is like my best friend but i like him a lot and i am afraid that if i ask him out directly and he says no we might not be as good friends any more any suggestions on how i could send him some signals with out being too flirty at first?
2007-03-12 13:04:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best moral in life is that you only live once, so why not take a chance at getting what you want out of it?
Feeling something for someone that you've known for a while is expected. While I'm honestly not in complete belief that the best relationships are founded on a long-term friendship, they do usually work out that way.
When you are friends with someone for a while, it lets you get to know each other on a different level than you are when you're in a relationship, and it's a scary thought to imagine changing the way things go with that someone.
The best way to let him know that you have feelings for him that exceed friendship is to talk about it with him.
If you are worried that he will think you're crazy and that it will ruin your frienship, talk about it indirectly.
Use someone else you know to find out how he feels about friends starting relationships. The idea itself might sound crazy to some people, so it's best to see what his take on it is first.
After you know how he feels, if he's for it, then you should talk to him about it a little more directly.
You don't have to tell him that you have feelings for him just yet. You could even joke with him about it. Speek theoretically, like, "So what if WE went out...?"
The problem with this is, though, if he thinks that you are joking, he will more than likely joke back, and when your mind is filled with nothing other than the way you feel for him, a joking answer you don't want to hear can lower your confidence a great deal.
Be strong, be confident, and know in your heart and mind that you do have feelings for him, and that you feel you should go out with him.
Don't try to hard to turn into the girl you think he wants you to be. If you do, he may notice the sudden change and panic before he has time to ask what you're doing.
If he wants to be with you, then he will be with YOU, and no one else who isn't YOU.
2007-03-12 16:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by w3squick3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't pick up on "signals". You could try but he probably won't get the message and you may feel you are being turned down when you really are not. Just ask him if he could ever consider you more than just a friend. Go from there. If you do become more than friends and things go bad you may lose him as a friend. That's the way things go sometimes. Good luck.
2007-03-12 13:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say, most of the guys would like to propose a girl. If u propose, there r chances to loose intrest in u after some time. So just give him a glimpse that u like him. Once he stars observing u, try to move away from him. He will be more curious n definetly this will work out. Have patience.
Good luck ! :-)
2007-03-12 14:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, there might be no going back so already your friendship has changed. You could flirt a little bit to see if he responds and if you think he's the slight bit interested then ask him out. I'm sure he wouldn't stop being your friend because I'm sure your an important part in his life if your his best friend.
2007-03-12 13:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just ask him. i know from personal exp. if you wait then it will build up inside of you. life is about taking risks, what you have said is one of those moments. think about it, if he does like you then it will make your relationship that much sweeter and fun. if he says no then there really is nothing to worry about cuz if he is your best friend then he won't stop being your best friend. trust me, just ask him cuz my girlfriend and i were the same, the only problem was that i had to wait cuz another guy asked before i could and that really hurt me, but i waited and finally i got the girl to put it shortly. if you wait for too long then you might lose him, so its better to try now. who knows he might feel the same about you.
so i hope this helped. good luck
2007-03-12 13:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by TheDrummer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is a signal that you like him. Start small (no kissing his ear or anything) and see if he picks up on it. If not, you may consider asking him out.
Friendship can sometimes be ruined by dating, but good friends always come back after the awkward post-breakup phase clears. It may be worth a shot.
2007-03-12 13:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To see if he likes you without asking him just watch him when you are with him. If you catch him looking at you when your doing something like bending over or just were something hot and you'll know. He'll be all over you if he really likes you as a girlfreind. Also guys usually have a reason to be hanging out with girls , either they like them or you have been freinds for a while, if you have been freinds for a while then it would make you feel akward if he says no.
If he's your freind he won't be offended by you asking him.
Just go for it !!! Most Guys are Wimps and can't build up the courage to ask.!!!!
2007-03-12 13:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by FlameBoy2210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing you should you do is find out if likes anyother girl. Since you guys are best friend, you have a good chance that you will go out with him. After you find out if he likes some one else or not, then make ur move,, if he likes some one else then just be friends but if he doesnt then make ur move... by that start to flirt... littel...its is ur way of letting the world know you like him with out telling him... just sit next to him... mess with his hair... and soon he will find out.... if he starts to come closer to you after the flirting then he likes you... but if he seems to run away from you then he doesnt like you..if that happens pretend to like some one else and everything will be back to normal... just be paitent... and smart . dont rush... good luck :)
2007-03-12 13:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ABSOLUTELY right. If you ask him out and he turns you down, it will feel weird. But if you have feelings for him, won't it be just as weird to hang out with him and not let him know?
Try simple things like touching his arm when you talk. Smile a lot, laugh at his jokes. Make excuses to be alone with him. Maybe even have a friend drop a hint to him.
2007-03-12 13:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have both. If you cherish your friendship then don't ask him for any more. If you want to go past the friendship and have a real relationship, then bite the bullet and tell him that. If you can't deal with the rejection then you'll never out grow yourself.
2007-03-13 10:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by IKNOWALL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋