My parents say we are, and I guess, maybe you could think so. But I don't know. We have been dating for almost 2 months and we have gone second base. I don't think that that is strange and unhealthy, but my parents do. I am almost 15, and about half of the people my age that I know aren't even virgins anymore. I am going to take it slow around my parents and his, but whatever goes on behind their backs is none of their business.
So, yeah, it's not like I am going to lose it to him in the next year, but still, I think they are being over protective.
Thank you everyone who answers
2007-03-12 13:02:06 · 34 answers · asked by Lior 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
listen to your folks
2007-03-12 13:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHatever goes on in your life is ALL of your parents business. If it something that you are doing "behind their back" then you know they wouldn't approve and you shouldn't be doing it. I am referring to ANYTHING that you do that you KNOW they would not want you to.
Now, I was a pretty quick mover with the boys and if I had to do it all over again I would have SLOWED down. If you are "making out" and start feeling that things are going to move further...then STOP, because eventually knowing when to say when will get a lot harder and you have a long way to go before you need to mess around with that stuff.
2007-03-12 13:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by isingmore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 everything you do is their bussiness ,it will be legally until you are 18.You are a child,and although you havn't had sex,it sure sounds like you want to.The reason you asked this (are we moving to fast) and then basically going against it (its none of their bussiness) shows that you know its wrong but are trying to find a reason to make it right,so if things go farther you wont feel guilty.There is no good excuse to have sex at your age,because if you wind up pregnant or with and STD,you can't blame your mom or dad,you can only blame yourself.Yet they will be the ones dealing with your problem.
Ps.Im adopted,my birthmother was 15 when she had me.I am the offspring of teen pregnancy.It does happen.
2007-03-12 13:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents care and have loved you for 15 years this guy your with has loved and cared for you enough to get into your nickers for 2 months!!!
Who do you think you should be listening too now. I hate to say it - YOUR PARENTS
No matter how much you want it - believe me it is far better to wait until it is truly with someone who really loves you.
My first was with a 16 year old when I was 17. He was 6 times a night - left me sore and ended up going off to someone else once he conquered me!! That was in the space of 3 months!!!
So please it's not unhealthy wanting to pet etc but mentally and physically you are so way off being ready for this kind of relationship.
DOESN'T MATTER ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS AND WHAT THEY ARE UP TO. It's your body DO NOT LET PEERPRESURE GET TO YOU like I did!!!! I had friends telling me that I was far to old to be a virgin etc etc!
2007-03-12 13:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by KANGA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are old enough where your parents already know they can't stop you from doing what you want to do. Maybe it seems like they are being over protective...but they see all of the sex, and teen pregnancies that are way too common now a days, and I am sure they just dont want that to happen to you! I am only 24, but I remember being 15 and its a hard age....and sometimes we do things we dont "plan" on doing either...so its just really important that you just respect your parents and what they are trying to say. They dont want to hold you back from having fun, but they are old enough to see that you are growing up and since they really dont know what goes on behind their backs, all they can do is imagine the worst! and that is probably very scary to them! to think of their little girl being in a relationship that may have sex involved! just think of how it must be in their shoes, and assure them that you are smart, and dont want to have sex yet, but that you feel you are responsible enough to do what you are doing now. the more you communicate with them, the more they will be able to trust you..and they will lay off your back a little
2007-03-12 13:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by corinthian615 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i understand your parents wanting to protect you, but you are 15.
Holy ****, you're a minority I'd say.
The fact that you're worried and concerned with what your parents say shows that you care about them and yourself.
As long as you don't feel pressured to "give it up", than do what you want.
2 months, I know if it were me when I was 15 and you hadn't put out yet, SEE YA!
But it looks like you have a guy that obviously cares.
Ultimately, it is YOUR decision. Hopefully your parents understand that and don't go on a power trip. That can lead to alot of friction and hatred between you.
Good Luck!
2007-03-12 13:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by mike oxbig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 15 and i agree with your parents that you need to take it slower and not go behind their backs only because that will just lead you into trouble. Most likely if you go any farther with him he will end up dumping you or going behind your back just because most guys your age just want some ***. It doesn't matter if most of the people you know aren't virgins anymore they are just going to get into more trouble and they have nothing to do you with you. I hope you don't want to have sex just to be cool because that isn't right. It would be best if you would wait until you are older to go any farther than you already have. You don't need to risk getting a disease or anything like that. I hope you are wise in your decision and good luck.
2007-03-12 13:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by Marya L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. Second base after 2 months at 15 is ok. I wouldn't go rushing onto 3rd though. You are young and don't want to do anything just because your friends or other people at school are doing it. You need to go at your own pace. If you decide you want to have sex, be responsible - GO ON BIRTH CONTROL. You need to take a trip to the gyno before you become sexually active.
2007-03-12 13:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweetie, ur parents have a good reason. but what do u mean moving to fast? as in sleeping or making out to the the next level? lol. interesting. almost 15 u say? well yeah that is a little too fast. try not to push it too far. u don't want anything to happen to you. ok?
2007-03-12 13:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by LiveLaughLoveDance♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u r moving 2 fast.u say ur almost 15 & raeched 2nd base. 2 fast.just because everyone isn't a virgin doesn't mean u shouldn't b one 2.don't follow the crowd. take it slow&don't rush into sex PLZ.
2007-03-12 13:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Brittfren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for a couple of years. You are only 14. So many things are still waiting for you around the corner. Why the rush?
2007-03-12 13:33:44 · answer #11 · answered by Martha P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋