ok..so they broke up after he cheated on her after a yr long relationship.....and we got together 4 months after that...we've been together for 4 months...like any guy...he wanted what he couldnt have and tried getting her back...at first she was confused but then she said she wanted to be with me.....3 months went by and now she is confused again. She says she loves us both soo much and she wants to go spend 1 day with him this week to see if he "changed"....I just wanna be with her...and as passive as I am, I told her to do what she has to do to make a decision....I dont think many guys would approve of that, but what else could i do? It was either that or she'd say "i dont wanna be with anyone then"...and I LOVE HER SOO MUCHH....
2007-03-12 12:59:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
congrats buddy! it was noble for you to do that! and it really proves how you really love her...
anyway, be prepared to whatever would happen as an outcome of their one moment bonding...
just like a quote sent to me long ago: "if it would make her happy... then i'm willing to let go for awhile... because from that courageous and risky thing that i did... she would have to know who's really true to her --- that one person ready to give up his happiness just for her to be happy..."
that girl is lucky to have you! i hope she knows that... (",)
2007-03-12 13:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me I think you did a very brave and kind thing, by offering to let her go spend a day with him is something not many guy's would do. But for her to actually go and spend the day with him is so inconsiderate of you, that it actually makes me want to slap her, that is the worst thing any woman can do to a man after he Say's that. i would have realized how much you loved me and said no way in hell am i chancing losing you! My heart goes out to you, I wish you luck and I am sorry you are going through this. My boyfriend just said i could see someone else and not to let him stop me and I was like i don't think so, but now he is staying away and i think he is thinking that i did go out with someone and it is hurting me like hell because I couldn't do that to someone so kind as him.
2007-03-12 13:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't deserve you. It is not appropriate to hang out with an ex while in a current relationship, let alone see them to see if they "changed" so they can get back with that person. Basically, she is saying you are her back up because if her ex has changed she wants him back, if not, she'll settle for you. That is so wrong. You shouldn't even need to ask for advice on this. It doesn't matter how much you love her, if she is going to act like that I would leave her now, because you will get your heart broken.
2007-03-12 13:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by kristajade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really bad thing to do(I mean her).Tell her that if she does that she can never come back to you no matter what her decision is afterwards.If she really loves you she won't want to lose you over some guy that has cheated on her before. I wish you luck mate.
2007-03-12 13:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Nikos N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing for you but you don't have to wait for her to make a decision. This would hurt me to the core and I really wouldn't care if she chose me in the end, the fact that she needed to do this would be a big enough of a warning sign to me.
2007-03-12 13:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
provide up having intercourse along with her that's a undesirable concept! purely sing her the song IM captivating and that i know it and do the dance i like the dance. She'll probable get creeped out or maybe call the law enforcement officials regardless of the undeniable fact that that's properly worth it
2016-10-18 05:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm it might be best to just let her go and let her get it out of her system especially because if you dont let her go then she'll think you're some kind of control freak. but she needs to be careful. he could just put on an act that he's changed so that she'll come back
2007-03-12 13:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is more fish in the sea buddy.....throw her back and go looking for someone that will have respect for you. And get some self respect in the process you are better then that to share a girl
2007-03-12 13:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you my boyfriend and i broke up because i found out he had feelings for my friend it ended up he thought she was leading him on and they have known eachother two years longer than i have so yeah but she ended up saying no to him and he came right back to me but i turned him down b/c if he wasnt 100% wanting to be with me i dont think it is worth it. it hard b/c he was my first love and i realy would love to be with him now but i guess im going to let him go.
2007-03-12 13:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its better for you to let her go see him rather than she go behind your back to see him and cheat. if she loves him then she still has feelings for him and that one day can turn into another year and you will be left behind loving her by yourself. or maybe you should go with her to see him and in her eyes you will see if he's the man she wants to be with.
2007-03-12 13:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by p-jump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋