is this normal?

Question

I have two older brothers and i'm close to them, so my first brother went for his national service like 2 years ago and i don't miss him that much. But now just this morning my second brother went away for his national service and i miss him so much!! Honestly, is this normal? I mean i really miss him so much more than i do for my first brother. Can anyone explain to me wha't going with me?

Answer 1

Time DOES heal. You probably did miss your odler brother at first but got used to it. If you're sure you didn't maybe you are just more mature now to realize what them leavign actually means.

Answer 2

Well if your second brother is closer to you in age then you will miss him more because you were in fact closer to him than your other brother simply because your age difference is less. Also when your first brother went away you still had one brother and so you were okay because you still had one brother to keep you company. Now that both of them are gone you are really feeling the fact that they are missing and it probably doesnt help that you are missing the first brother of yours who left since now you actually have to think about him being gone and your other brother as well. Its normal . . .it will probably take awhile to adjust but you should be okay really!

Answer 3

i have two older brothers also and im close with the both of them but i always miss my second bother more than the first oldest. we are no where around the same age. my first brother is like 37 and my second is 28 and the 28 year old and i are more closer. i havent lived with them in years and i dont miss them the same. it might sound bad but you may like one brother more but you dont want to face it. thats how i feel sometimes. brothers are weird but you cant let them know that you have different feelings about them.

Answer 4

This is Normal. At least it is to me. Sometimes, you are you just closer to one family member than another. Perhaps you were ok with your first brother going because you had the assurance that your other brother would be there with you.Now that he's going too, this might make you worried and seem like you miss him more. Whatever way you look at it, you're actions are normal. Hope this helps a bit!

Answer 5

You're probably closer to your second brother. Sibling relationships vary; just because you all grew up together doesn't meant you will all spend as much time together when you're older or contact each other the same amount. Don't worry, it's normal.

But when your first brother gets back, build more of a relationship with him. :) You'll feel better.

Answer 6

It is just natural that when the first one went for national service you became more attracted to the second one because you really missed the first one.It is quite normal brother.

Answer 7

well maybe you just have a closer relationship with the brother that just left. Maybe you have more in common. this doesnt mean that you dont love your other brother as much it just means that you are closer to this brother. try writing to the both of them.

Answer 8

Well, even though you are close to both brothers, when your older brother left you still had some one there to be there for you. But now they are BOTH gone and it's like woooah, what the heck is going on? Where are my brothers?

Answer 9

It just means that you were closer to your second brother which is common. My 3 siblings were closer to each other than they were to me b/c they were only a year apart from each other as aposed to almost 3 years between me and my oldest younger sister.

Answer 10

Perfectly normal for some siblings to be closer than others. I wouldn't tell either one of them though so you don't hurt the other one's feelings. I'm sure you love them both.