My question today is, it's kind of difficult, see my baby dad only calls on our kids b-day. And on the other holidays in the year, but that is the only time he calls. If he changes his number, he doesn't even call me to give it to me. I have not put child support on him for the simple fact that he doesn't keep a job, and if he does, he gets paid under the table. Our daughter loves him to death, but our son really doesn't pay to much mind to him. I ask for your advice today. Should i take full parental rights away from him, or should i just leave it alone, this has gone on for about 4 years now. I think about it because of my daughter and she is the reason that i haven't done nothing.... please help...
2007-03-12 12:48:37 · 5 answers · asked by Carina M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok, so im not an expert on this. to tell you the truth im 15 years old and i havent seen my father in over 5 years. he has a bad job too but my mom got child support. i understand what both of your kids must be going through. i used to love my dad to death but he really disapointed me. you should try to get this man to see your kids at least twice a month. try to avoid your daughter being disapointed. it will cause damage to your kids that they will never forget. at least i didnt forget and it really hurt me. if you feel that you cant trust him then maybe you should take full parental rights.
2007-03-12 13:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by rbd fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. My son's father doesn't even call my son. He has even told me he does not have to help me take care of my son. I've got full custody of my son and now that my son is getting older he sees that his father is an *** and basically doesn't want to talk to him. I've asked him to relinquish his rights but since he is a momma's boy along with 7 others, she had some smart remark to say. Lift your head up you can do by yourself even when you don't think you can. And as far as child support, why should single moms enforce this, if a man does not want to take on the responsibility of being and staying a man, what the hell they need our help or the governments help telling and reinforcing how to be a man and be responsible for?
2007-03-12 20:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by justmeandu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't paying child support and isn't around for the kids, then what in the world does he need visitation for? He should be helping you out with the kids and being a real father to them. Him seeing them a couple times a year is only going to continue to hurt them as they get older, because they will realize that their dad isn't around and doesn't care enough to see them on a regular basis.
2007-03-12 19:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not take parental rights away, only the court can, and they are very unlikely to do so for lack of support (my ex is a crackhead that is in and out of jail, and never paid a dime, and he still had his rights). as far as the order for support goes, put it in. they can not make him pay what he does not have, but they do keep track of what is owed, it is a handy number to know
2007-03-12 19:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good reason why you should:
1) only reproduce with decent guys.
2) have a real commitment before you reproduce.
He is who he is. You aren't going to change him.
2007-03-12 19:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋