my boyfriend of a year dumped me at the end of january, the first few days i was really upset but after that i felt happier again and was completely fine about things.
however, the past two weeks or so though i've been feeling really upset everyday about this guy breaking up with me and i miss him loads and still do love him. i feel so incredibly lonely and i loved this guy more than i've ever loved anyone.
we haven't spoken since a week after the breakup and i know it is for the best as he didn't appreciate me and love me for me, and was always trying to change me e.g. 'you'd be the perfect girlfriend if only ...' etc but the way i felt about him was so genuine and i really don't understand what i did wrong for him to breakup with me.
does anyone have any tips on how to not be so sad?
2007-03-12 12:41:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure you've heard it before, but I'll say it again. Time heals... Now...you loved this guy, but he didnt appreciate you, and said you'd be the perfect girl if.....HE IS NOT WORTH UR TIME. Dont you waste another tear on him....do not waste another tear on some one who (not to sound mean at all really!) won't shed a tear on you or with u... Girl...you can find someone who will always love you, show you they appreciate you, respect you always, and will cry with you and laugh with you, LOVE YOU>>>for you not some image he has in his head that he hopes to mold you into. Look to the future, not at the passed. They're are reason the people from ur past arent making it to ur future...key word PAST. I know it hurts right now,,,,but that's a risk we all take when falling in love. Think of this and ur PAST relationship as an excellent lesson and to help u in ur next relationship. Find things in u did and didnt like from that relationship and use them in ur next (not comparing the guys tho...just things you would like to see in ur next lover.) Old relationships are stepping stones paving the way for new ones. You'll find and excellent guy when the time is right. Right now, keep urself busy, focus on ur self and things u've wanted to do but maybe didnt have time for before cause u were in a relationship....see this as a perfect time to re-connect with ur self!
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2007-03-12 13:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever we go through a breakup, we are always, as women, blaming ourselves for what happened, when the truth is we just were not suited for each other. I, personaly would rather know that now then later. Its not your fault it didn't work out, the only thing that heals us from our past is to grieve and let time run its course and the old saying is time heals all. If you didn't know what love was or is then you would never ever be hurt, if you know what its like to love then you know what its like to loose and it makes you wiser the next time around. There is always happiness at the end of a sorrowful rainbow, and if we stay positive, then we will learn to live love and laugh especially when we are happy. Take care Hether
2007-03-12 12:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same kind of thing except my breakup is a little more fresh. All I can say is time take your own time to find yourself cause I know for me anyway I completly lost myself to him take some time to find yourself again and also spend as much time as you can with your friends. It sucks and it will be that way for a while but enjoy yourself you may learn something new about yourself after this experience
2007-03-12 12:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Heather Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur self this, hes not good enough 4 u and would have 2 b stupid 2 break up with u, look at the glass as 1/2 full, there will b another guy, fate new u werent meant 2 b, there r many other fish in the sea
2007-03-12 12:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your friends more often, and do things that you enjoy. No one is perfect and the guy shouldn't think that you should change to fit his standards. A guy who has the nerve to belittle you and not treat you like you should be treated, doesn't deserve your love. Hold yourself up with pride and be glad you got rid of that kind of negative stress.
2007-03-12 12:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out not necesarily on a date but with friends or take a walk in the park do different things. think about the bad things he did. When we miss someone we tend to focus on the "good" times but we have to keep in mind the bad times and feeling hurt by that person
2007-03-12 12:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had the same probs really it really sucks
but u need to involve yur self in different activities n doo stuff read books join classes like yoga or marshal arts if u a student then lot many things to hang out with frnds n start datin again
2007-03-12 12:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to change for a guy. There are way better fish in the sea who like you for who you are, not who you're pretending to be. Go find your Nemo and stop worrying about this jerk. I hope this helps.
nicole
2007-03-12 12:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i am verry limadid on what i say so here it goes. it is normal to fell really sad after some one you love breaks up with you trust me i was going out with a guy four 2& a hafe years till he brock up with me. but i got over it after 2 mounths.
if you want more info e-mail me at dragonprencess@yahoo.com
hope it works out if you dont
2007-03-12 13:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋