Hello,
I came across this forum looking for some information. I wanted to just basically get everyone's opinion about the whole situation. My gf has been living with me for about 2 months, she has recently found out she is pregnant. I believe she is about 2 months or so pregant. My gf cheated on my in December with her ex bf....I am scared she is still seeing him because he may possibly be the father, if they place the pregnancy conception back to the end of December. Over the past week my gf has became very distance, we haven't had sex for a week. She treats me bad. Last Thursday she was gone all day up there where she is from, she came home and told me she felt fine. I came home from work and she said she was sick. I also noticed strange stains in her underwear (like they had been soaked) She cheated on me before badly and I wouldn't put it past her again. I wonder if she is keeping her ex in the picture because he may be the father? Help!!! Thanks in advance for your opinion
2007-03-12 12:37:46 · 13 answers · asked by Stuartnc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has lied to me before many times. I have even recently been using some "unconventional" methods to try to find out the truth. I have been placing a tape recorder in her car and using a program on my PC to log her activity. The worst thing was when her 7 year old nephew said she was talking to her ex. I don't know how a kid could possibly come up with this....unless he did hear or see something. Despite all she has done to me in the past I do love her, I kinda feel like she is using me for a place to live and she is gonna keep lying to me until I blow up. She even acts like she doesn't care about us at all anymore. I just wish she would tell me if she is seeing him so I won't end up catching a disease. She told me in an argument the other day that "she doesn't need me" This is a girl that is supposed to be having my baby....*sigh*
2007-03-12 12:43:04 · update #1
Sounds like you might need to consider a paternity test. Meanwhile, if you know she's a cheater, don't be surprised if she has been cheating for some time now. It seems like you knew she cheated and decided to shack up with her anyway.
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2007-03-12 12:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This untrustworthy girl has turned you into a mini-stalker. Sorry I know the truth hurts but come on. If she cheated on you once she will do it again especially if she knows you know about it and did not break up with her. Possibility if she was actively having sex with both of you at the same time around time of conceptions is 50/50. Your probably 100% right about her keeping contact with her ex-boyfriends. Let's be honest though just because of the baby come on. She probably has become distant because of the checking of the underwear, questions asking of the 7 year old family members and they general way that you are acting towards her. None the less she is bad news who cares if you love her many more bad girls to waste that on (who knows you might find a good girl in the midst of all that). Paternity test do I need to say it twice if she is the way you said she is your love will not last but 18 years at 500-1000 dollars a month will. Back to the beginning you need to undeveloped the things you are doing before you ruin the opportunity to have a good relationship in the future based on how you are handling a bad one in the present. You can't change who people are.
2007-03-12 23:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, her being moody and the no sex could be because of the pregnancy - she may not be feeling like her usual self. Her going back where she's from could be to talk to family or friends. The only way you are going to know who the father of the baby is is getting paternity test when the child is born. The only other thing you can do is talk to her about whats going and ask her straight out if she's been faithful. Tell her you love her and just need to know she feels the same way.
2007-03-12 12:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say I'm sorry you have to go through this. Usually you can tell when a situation isn't right. Right now you're just in denile because you don't want it to be true. Ignoring it won't make it go away. It sounds like she's cheating to me also. She probably thinks if she got away with it before, she can do it again and you'll forgive her. I think you need to move out and stop talking to her. She sounds selfish. Why don't you try treating her the way she treats you. Go out and don't tell her where you're going. Or when she goes out make sure you're gone when she gets back and make her wonder what you are doing. It's a hard situation for you, but sometimes you have to do difficult things to make yourself happy. I hope everything turns out okay. You seem like a nice guy and someday you'll meet someone who will appreciate that. No one deserves to go through what you are right now.
2007-03-12 12:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that maybe she may still have feelings for this guy and she probably really don't know who the father is either you or her ex. What you need to do is sit down and talk to her because communication is the best way to see if you guys can still stay together as a couple. So talk to her and tell her how you feel.
2007-03-12 12:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by april h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously still has feelings for her ex..and there's a possibility that she finds more comfort with him..but i think it takes two to drive someone away..and im talkn bout ur gf and YOU..maybe you should try to sit down with her and talk instead of arguing..now, im not saying its all your fault at all,though, but i think the way you act may be a turn off to her..recording in her car?? that's taking it way too far...and imagine if she was to find that..i think you should take a step back and think about the whole situation thoroughly before you act.and get ready to realize that this girl you love may not be all that you cracked up to be..GOD BLESS
2007-03-12 12:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm there might b a possibility that she is cheating on u..but ull never know or no1 here can answer u better than herself..confront her about it..have a open conversation/ ask her if she is cheating and let her know why ur thinking that way/ then ask her if ur really the babys dad..then ull only find out for sure when the babys born if theres still any doubt by doing an DNA test.
2007-03-12 12:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sry buddy, this doesn't sound too good. If you came right out and said that you wouldnt put it past her to cheat on you again, why would you want to be in a relationship like that. Especially if she's treating you bad. There's no right way to say this, but you need to find out who the father is. You'll obviouslly need to confront her but you NEED to know. You need to find out if she's the kind of girl that you want to spend the rest of your life with..and if you love her...
I hope that I helped
2007-03-12 12:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, if she's cheated on you, lied to you, and you feel you can't trust her, dump her.
You'll save yourself a lot of heartache in the long run!
2014-03-19 21:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by The Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have really good sex with her and mabey she'll come back to you.
2007-03-12 12:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by The Curse of Curves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋