I know people do it all the time, but I feel dishonest doing it. See, a girl I like is interested in seeing this DVD. A friend of mine overheard that and struck up a conversation with her about it. Since he knows I'm interested in her, he told me to borrow his copy, say u like it too & lend it to her as if it were mine. However, my solution would be to just rent it and ask her if she wants to borrow it. However, how would I explain how I knew about it? Also, the whole scenario seems so contrived /staged to me. I know guys do it without thinking twice but I feel guilty misleading her (I usually don't fake interest in something I don't really like as I think it will all come back to bite you in the end) -especially when the whole point should be for her to get a copy and not for me to take credit for something I didn't actually do. Should I just let him lend it to her or somehow step in and get the credit? Or a third alternative like I suggested?
2007-03-12 12:35:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What about my suggestion of renting it, lending it to her, & telling her the truth of how I found out about it? I f she asks I'll confess my interest.
2007-03-12 12:44:29 · update #1
I agree-- dishonesty is never good. Although you might be able to work out some complicated scenario in which you would get credit for loaning her the dvd, do you really think it will impress her enough to make it all worth it? Why not find something you're both interested in to strike up a convo? Have your friend keep his ears open; maybe he'll hear something useful.
2007-03-12 12:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why not just chat with her and once your chating kinda ask if she's likes that DVD and if she says yea, well then just tell her you just rented one and she can borrow it or ask her if she wants to watch it with you. Doing it this way she wont know that you already know about it and it's easy on the mind also. SO go ask her and go for it.
2007-03-12 19:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you already know the answer....I can read between the lines...dishonesty is not something that seems to come naturally to you...which is a good thing....I would just tell him thanks but no thanks. Find honest ways to approach her...in the end she will appreciate you for integrity much more than what kind of ingenious deceptive tactics you can come up with. You could just say...look...so and so mentioned that you liked such and such movie...I wouldn't mind seeing that and I was wondering if I rented it, if you would like to come over and watch it with me...Good luck.
2007-03-12 19:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I know I've learn thus far
tis the player who's sometimes the star
get her the movie, it's you shot, so shoot....
she won't think you tricked her, she'll think it's cute
2007-03-12 19:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude.
It's always best just to be yourself. If you don't then you're living a lie that you have to stay on top of. And who needs that?
2007-03-12 19:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because if that's not what you are then how long can you keep the lie going? you will have to keep this lie up and running forever is that what you want to do?
2007-03-12 19:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by MRS.BLONDIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. its lying to her.
2. if she does like you, she wont be liking YOU, she'll be liking someone you made up.
3. ud be a fake
2007-03-12 19:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes cause its lieing!to her,
2007-03-12 19:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by pamela t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋