Does any nice guy on here suggest a good way in finding a honest man?

Question

I'm 44years old with 4 kids two are 24 & 22, the other two are 8 & 6. Just would know where and how do you meet someone who I could spend time with. Begining to give up on finding someone who's not a jerk. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

Don't go looking, he'll find you, even if its just randomly at a gas station, or in the store/mall, you may meet someone from a LONG time ago that you completely forgot about and they might be interested. things like that happen quite often.

Typically, the right guy finds you, not the other way around.

Answer 2

The Church answer is a good idea, let the ladies of the Church you attend, help match make, but keep an eye out, bad guys use the Church scene to, they are predatory, I saw it with a lady friend of mine, those guys are pure evil. I was afraid for her safety. I thought the guy was going to try and do something to her right there in the Church basement, if he got her alone.
Try the book store, especially a bible book store, the guys who want to be better men, will go for the self improvement aisle, watch the kind of books or magazines they read. And most importantly eavesdrop on them when they are asking for certain items. Good luck, you have every right to look, don't back off. Happiness is out there for you, I am sure of it

Answer 3

Back a few years ago when I tried finding friendship/romance on the Internet, I set limits and didn't waver.

Such as asking questions that most others wouldn't normally ask. The questions I posed were simple, but each answer would have more meaning to me than those giving the answers or those thinking they'd not forgo, let alone even pursue by replying to me.

For instance, I asked, "How many and what style shoes do you own?"
If all they owned was high heels or cowboy boots, they weren't for me. Likewise if they owned so many I equated it with them wastefully spending money and not being able to part with out-of-date attire.

Some thought I was nosy or into being some kind of foot fetish freak, of which I'm not, but their answers gave me a little inside information on them that's really not intrusive or bothersome.

Plus I kept to lighter topics and more or less waited for anyone interested in, or wanting to pursue me, more or less at a distance by going through a slower, more realistic "weeding" method.

One thing that really weeded out (some) women supposedly interested in me, was asking them if they'd gone out on any dates lately and how did it go?

Some of the answers went from 'it was just not a good date,' to 'the guy was a real ******,' to 'I went on a date last night and we didn't hit it off at all,' to 'things were going real well for about two months, then after we had sex he dumped me.'

Well... Some may 'read into' answers; while in my case... I left it up to them to more or less either make a stumble or somehow I'd learn if they're just out looking for a good time, or whether or not all they wanted was a nice evening of pampering in-between the real men they supposedly were interested in.

If I have any out right tips I'd say be very patient and very un-eager about really finding someone. That sets a tone for yourself and puts a damper on people just interested only in themselves and not others.

Personally, the selfishness of others is the main thing I found while slowly going through all the hoops and misery of weeding out the drips from the decent ladies out there.

There just weren't that many.

To narrow down your search, find out about similarities in how you are with your family and how others are with theirs. To me the common link between finding someone more suitable to me, was finding someone more or less similar in nature with family ties and bonds. This also included what kinds of friends they had, how long they knew each other, how they interacted/how often, etc.

Sometimes knowing how people are with their friends says a lot about them themselves.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

I am a happily married man with several female friends and I give them all the same advise. No man is totally honest, if you can accept that then you are well on your way to happiness. Men our dogs and dogs have fleas. You just have to find the fleas that you are willing to live with.

Answer 5

There's this book for wimpy and/or less jerky men to become better, stronger-willed, and stable. It is called "No More Mr. Nice Guy". They meet occasionally somewhere (you could find it if you looked around on the internet enough), and I guess you could go there and find one of them that isn't married.

Answer 6

start going to church and church functions not guarenteed but probly the best option