Okay, this is going to sound mean, but you need to grow a backbone. Girls are not attracted to guys that wallow in self-pitty and sit around and feel sorry for themselves. I'm sure you are a great guy -- you just need to learn to show it! Before you can be happy in a relationship you need to be happy with yourself. Get off myspace and get off yahoo and go outside. Start a hobby (that doesn't involve the internet). Sign up for a class at the local gym or just start using the treadmill. Maybe take up Kung-Fu or something else you've always been interested. Becoming involved in a hobby will help you find confidence in yourself. If your friends aren't interested ask them why. Explain that you're unsure why you can't get a date and are looking for pointers. Girls like to help people. Good luck.
2007-03-12 12:23:43
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answered by Eve 5
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well obviously an unfair give and take is seen here , you do nice things for her , but they wouldnt even take you out once?
sorry bro , they are using you when they feel bored or something, maybe is for the fact that you has never had a girlfriend b4 do they know this? it will be awkward , think of this to stop being depressed get in their minds where they only see you as a pet they can pet when bored , they give u little pieces of nothing , and when they are satisfied , they turn your back on you!
im 100% u dislike the idea of behaving , being their pet , so just forget about them , by meeting worthy people of you , which will return what you give , and also fun as these girls,
2007-03-12 12:26:26
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answered by damoon 2
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Sounds like you're trapped in the 'freinds zone'. If you are too nice, the girls won't think of you as anything but a friend. Girls want a guy with a little bit of an edge to them.
I'm sure they like you, but they probably don't respect you very much. Distance yourself just alittle bit. Give them the impression that you have something else going on. Let them know you like them but don't need them. They'll develope a little more respect for you.
2007-03-12 12:20:42
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answered by Anonymous
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You are going to gauge your self-esteem on two girls who may or may not like you and may or may not appreciate your
friendship?
Do you always get the "you are really a nice guy but I don't like you like that" answer?
You could be the guy they date one week and the next week
hate for the rest of their life because he turned out to be a real jerk.Is that what you really want?Are they equally your friends?Been there for you?If they didn't enjoy your company I don't think they would give you the time of day!
And if it a girlfriend is what you are looking for..maybe you should ask them which girl they think is good enough for you...
I don't think you are the type of guy who can jump from girl to girl...but you are the type of guy who actually has something to offer...can't put a price on that baby-doll.
2007-03-12 12:30:17
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answered by Anonymous
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Let me clue you in on teenage girl behavior: they love attention, and if it comes from the opposite sex without anything in return, then that's even better.
So, these girls like having a guy around who is nice, non-threatening (not a super-hot crush who will probably break their hearts later), and does things for them without them returning the favor.
Either you like being used so that you can hang with these chicks, or you spend your time being nice to a girl that wants to be nice back. Yes, they do exist! Guess what? They're not the super-hot, or even mildly-hot chicks--they're the average ones--like you described yourself as being. At least you've had this lesson early enough to recognize that looks are only skin deep!
2007-03-12 12:23:13
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answered by f8_smyled 3
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I think I know where your problem lies. I think girls think of you as the brother type, therefore, they may find it difficult to see you as a boyfriend. If you like a girl, it may not be wise to do the friend thing for too long because they may just want to only be a friend, after a while. I'd say, wait it out. The right girl will come along after a while.
2007-03-12 12:29:13
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answered by Silent Jay 2
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18 is a tough age,shy or not.It's more important that you like yourself first.Take a few moments to examine who you are and where you want to go with your life.First,I think you are way to young to be so self concious and demeaning to yourselfI was a late bloomer myself so i'm speaking to you from experiance."Be true to thine own self" is very approprite.Do not go through life over analyzing everything,just be you.If so called friends do not reply or give counsel then they probably are not really good friends to begin with.Your weight has no bearing on who are.165 lbs. for any heighth at your age means nothing.What does matter is if you like who are inside.Have a true heart,be good to all others and most of all,be patient.Someone special will enter your life at the least expected moment and you will know her when it happens.Then go for the gold.Eject anyone who does not accept you as you are.You are special in your own special way.do not allow yourself to be used in any way.War is depressing,not being 18.Enjoy each and every moment in life that you have the chance to.
2007-03-12 12:28:48
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answered by thomas c 2
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Calm down...You can't expect to have all of life's answers at age 18. No body can. If you think these girls are taking advantage of you...they probably are. But even if they are, it's not the end of the world, promise. There are a lot of girls out there and there are many, many girls that would suit you perfectly. Even if you can't find her right now...she'll show up one day. And when she does...Give her flowers. They like that!
2007-03-12 12:24:30
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answered by Anonymous
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First of all, you can't have two girlfriends. Who do you really like? From there, ask her if she'd like to hang out on Friday and catch a movie or something. Spend time with her and as you two form a bond, ask her to be your girlfriend.
2007-03-12 12:20:23
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answered by Rewind 4
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i am very sorry, but you know what i think? i think if its not those 2 girls, then there will be that girl that will want to hang out with you and will appreciate you for everything that you are...dont get sad or anything, just be patient, there is that girl out there for you and dont get sad especially if those 2 girls say that they dont want to hang out with you, if not, then meet some other girls, plus dontbe shy, be more confident, i am sure you are not ugly, plus, you know what they say, PERSONALITY MATTERS A LOT!!! so, just be confident in yourself and youll be fine...good luck :)
2007-03-12 12:22:10
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answered by Anonymous
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