I'm going through a rough time right now where everything is rubbish, work, Uni, my best friend going off with her boyfriend and totally ignoring me, & worst of all my grandad having cancer. my mum works really hard, so in return I give her money and keep the house clean
but recently, since i've been feeling like this, all i seem to be doing is arguing with my mum, and i know it's because of what's going on and I'm stressed out, so i tried explaining to her that i just want her to stop arguing with me and help me get through this just now. and all she could reply was stuff like '' i dont argue with u!' ''well i work'' and really selfish comments. she's not usually like this and it's making it worse. i keep getting really angry as well, comes right from my stomach
what do i do? i cant talk to anyone else cos they've all got their own problems. I know i'm cared about, but at the moment i just feel alone.
2007-03-12 12:09:34 · 7 answers · asked by RLJ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
should also say that my grandad who's ill is my dad's dad, not my mum's. so that shouldn't be affecting her
2007-03-12 12:11:12 · update #1
people are saying this might be affecting my mum, but my mum and dad have been separated for about 17 years and im 18. my mum and grandad, hardly ever see each other
2007-03-12 12:22:50 · update #2
Sounds like you're just stressing over things you can't control and that's life. Instead of arguing w/your mom get her and go have a girls day out and relieve some stress. If you can afford it go to a spa. Or go shopping and stop off for some food afterwards maybe a movie. It may sound odd having a girls day w/your mom but she's a girl too and probably hasn't taken any time for herself either in a long time. Just ditch work and go out and let yourself wind down abit. Sorry to hear about your grandad..cancer is running through my family as well. It's everywhere. Good Luck and Relax abit! G.
2007-03-12 12:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by G=ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, you got it wrong. Just because he's your dad's dad doesn't mean she doesn't care for him. Think about it. How long has she been in the famiily? How would you feel in her shoes? Is your Mum and dad argueing also? I understand what your getting at. I really do. So, the next time you and your Mum start argueing, tell her that your tired of argueing with her and you'll discuss this when she is in a better mood. And try not to argue. Its upsetting you both and its not doing either one of you any good. Stress does have a lot to do with it. But your Mum has to worry about your granddad and your dad, you and plus your house and any bills that may be hurting your parents. Like I said, try putting yourself in her shoes for a day. And see how you are at the end of the night. I'm not being a sparty pants either. But you do have to look at both sides of the coin.
Hope things work out for you. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-12 19:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? You sound a little selfish. You are obviously stressed and upset about your grandfather, but regardless of whether he is your mothers father or not, you can't just say it isn't affecting her. Bear in mind this is someone she has known for a long time (possibley longer than you), and your father must be pretty upset as well, so she has got him to look after as well.
Perhaps you could see a doctor and maybe check to see if you need antidepressants or something to help with stress, whilst you are having a tough time. If not medication, they may be able to help with some counselling where you talk it through and maybe start to work some things out.
2007-03-12 19:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by louloubelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a moment and just relax. Maybe go away for a day or two to a spa or even just a hotel and just have time to yourself without any drama or arguing. You are going through a lot and you mom may not understand that.
Try to talk to her heart to heart and explain how you are feeling.
2007-03-12 19:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to write her a note or even an email explaining how you are feeling. Tell her you need her now and tell her exactly what you need--her to listen etc. She may not know what to do. Take some time and get her to go for a coffee or something where you can both relax. Hope things get better for you.
2007-03-12 19:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by 2Jaded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to sit down and talk to each other.go out to dinner or somewhere public.tell her whats on your mind maybe she'll open up to you. just because your dad's father is sick does not mean she can't worry about him .your worried too.
2007-03-12 19:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by marylou f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you go to church? Go to one of the pastors wives, they would love to talk to you and help.
2007-03-12 19:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by emerys4christ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋