My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, we are both 25 and have each had sex with two other people, but not with each other yet. He seems to becoming less interested sexually. We use to always do stuff everytime we saw one another, but in the last two weeks he just isnt interested. He told me it isnt that big of deal if he gets any. Last night he hardly touched me or kissed me, but cuddled while we were watching a movie. I tried to initate something but he kept blowing me off. Told me not to get mad at him for not wanting to get it on. I told him it was disheartening and that I just want him to want me...he said he does. It made me feel like an ugly, fat piece of crap What do I do? Just ignore him and stop trying to start something? I tried to talk to him last night, but he told me babe, I am just tired, dont over analyze it. I just want to feel wanted....any advice?
2007-03-12 12:03:06 · 4 answers · asked by Belize 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went through something similar with my bf at about 8 months. After a few weeks of internalizing my feelings of rejection I finally got him to tell me what was going on: he said that he felt like we had reached a point in our relationship where the physical connection was a just a bonus to everything else. He didn't feel like we needed to be sexual all the time because we had moved the all-over-each-other-all-the-time stage. It's possible that your man is feeling the same way. I suggest giving him his sexual space and seeing how it goes the next few weeks. You can make a move, but if he doesn't reciprocate let it go and don't nag him about it. If he doesn't show any interest in you at all after a few weeks then I'd say there is something else going on. Maybe he is stressed out from work or has some family issues (illness, etc) that he just isn't comfortable talking about yet. Worst case scenarios would of course be that he wants to break up or he is sleeping with someone else. Just remember that you can't control the way he feels. All you can do now is just take him at his word.
I'm curious: after 8 months why haven't you slept together?
2007-03-12 12:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have more confidence in yourself, you also need to think it's been 8 months and you are now interested and he is not. Could he possibly be seeing someone else, I know that is nothing anyone wants to think could be possible but it is something you need to really take into consideration, if he is not interested in you because of your looks then find someone else no-one should make anyone feel that way. I apologize for being so upfront, but I am very honest and voice my opinion. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 12:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It quite may well be a pair of countless issues. My husband did the comparable ingredient to me to no longer some time past. men and ladies human beings hit their "height" at distinctive circumstances and while a guy isnt at his, you may incredibly plenty forget it. I recommend, I went from everyother day, on the least, to approximately as quickly as each 2 weeks. You cant come decrease back with the "I dont opt for you the two" or you rather wont get any! Remind him what he's lacking! that's evidently, you're quite no longer achieved with him.
2016-10-02 00:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are his buddy look for someone that is into you. Not only sexually but that desires you. It doesnt mean that you are not attrative but he is just not that into you..
2007-03-12 12:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋