A friend of mine asked me a few minutes ago what I think about the following idea: Her and her fiance's dog being the "ring bearer" in their ceremony. Their wedding is pretty formal and I have always thought that to be a little tacky but I also think that its their day and they should do whatever they want. I told her its her day and to do what she wants but she asked my honest opinion.. Luckily Im at work and the other line rang so I had to go. Whats the best thing to say to her? Should I tell her my real opinion or should I just say its a cute idea?
2007-03-12 11:52:01 · 24 answers · asked by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To be honest with you, it IS a bit tacky to have a dog as part of the ceremony; especially if the wedding's a formal one that's actually being celebrated IN a church.
HOWEVER.......
I was once part of a wedding where dogs were not only part of the ceremony, they were also invited guests!!! And, you know what? It was one of the most memorable weddings I've ever been to!
So...what should you tell your friend?
Be honest with her and say that you think it's kinda silly (I'd avoid using the word "tacky"), but DO remind her that it's her wedding and that if that's what she really wants, then that's what she should do.
(Oh...you might want to mention to your friend that there may be guests attending who are either afraid of, or allergic to dogs. That may be something she and her fiancee haven't thought of........)
2007-03-12 12:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Silver 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell her:
1. the dog must be well trained and be able to walk a straight line and not be distracted by all the people
2. try having a little girl/boy be a co-ring bearer/flower girl and walk the dog with a pretty tulle leash
3. the dog must not bark and must be very well behaved with people around and comfortable- some dogs poop/pea when they get nervous--ohhh what a bad idea
4. think about allergies- make sure people alergic to dogs won't be close to it.
5. if it's going to have the ring pillow on it's back-it's gotta be comfortable with this- just like horses who haven't had a saddle on yet-it'll get angry/uncomfortable and do anything to get it off
6. DO NOT put the actual rings with the dog, put plain metal rings you can find at a craft store and make sure the best man is holding the real things!- the officiant may not want to bend over to untie the things and if it fall the dog could swallow or they could be left in the aisle.
it sounds like a cute idea but has to be very well planned and she's gotta be confident that the dog will perform it's duty.
Good luck on this one :-)
God Bless
2007-03-12 20:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly, there are lots of people who feel that their animals are part of the family and treat them like it. I personally would not have the dog be the ring bearer but i have seen it done on tv. Maybe if they really want the dog to be involved, he can up at the alter with the groom waiting on the bride.
You can tell her you think its a different idea, that you have never seen it, and while even though it is a novel idea, you personally wouldnt do it.
since it is just a suggestion i wouldnt take it to heart. someone will tell her it is tacky before you need to. if not oh well- it will be her wedding and she do it how she wants to....
2007-03-12 21:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she could get a ring bearer old enough to walk the dog down the aisle with him if she really wants to include the dog then she wont have a loose dog on her hands and he can still be there. I know some people really get attached to the pets they own. Also you might want to have her ask the place in which she is getting married and make sure they allow pets in the building! hope this helps you out!
2007-03-12 22:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by fobfanlovesgreg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her your opinion in the nicest way possible. That is after all why she asked you.
If it is a such a formal wedding I don't think a dog is particularly appropriate but if they wish to do this and they are doggy people then I suppose people will understand. Although they may not take the rest of the wedding so seriously if the dog comes...which would make it less formal.
2007-03-12 19:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We actually wanted to do this at our wedding (just for fun) so we let our dog Molly wear a little cute dress and she came early to do the pictures. She was in the program but she wasn't in the wedding, that would just be asking for trouble. So we have a few pictures with her, and it was cute, but we didn't have anyone to be the flower girl or ring bearer, so it was just a little fun thing to add.
2007-03-12 20:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by average_american_superhero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her without completely knocking her idea down. Tell her that it might work for a more informal outdoor wedding but since she is having a more formal one it might not go over so well. Think about how important thier dog is to them. If it is a major part of their life and they treat it like thir kid or family then maybe it would be good for them to have their dog be a part of their big day. Just reiterate that it is their day and they should do whatever they really want to.
2007-03-12 19:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by vancie121 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My dogs are a part of my family and have been with me longer than my spouse, so I personally wouldn't see anything wrong with them being in the wedding. If she wants her dog involved, that is great! I think this is one of those cases where you should tell her what she wants to hear- it's a great idea and that it will be cute. Just because you wouldn't want a dog in your wedding doesn't mean that she shouldn't have it in hers - the dog is obviously a part of her family, and I think it's great that she wants to include it.
Imagine if you wanted to include your small child in your wedding- you wouldn't want your friend to tell you that it's a silly idea- that would totally hurt your feelings. Some people cherish their pets in the same way, so go with it.
Cheers!
2007-03-13 02:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by p_i_turtle_sanders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty formal you would think would not include pets but it is her special day. It also may keep the wedding from being too stuffy. And yes she asked you for your opinion give it to her . Thats like telling her her butt looks just fine in that dress when obviously it doesn't. It doesn't help people when you lie to them to spare their feelings. Heres an example. You cook something for say your husband and you ask him if he liked it. He says yes it was great. So thinking you are making him something he likes you continue to prepare it for him for years to come. When in all honesty he cant stand it and didnt want to hurt your feelings by telling you so.
2007-03-12 19:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is their dog really well trained? And I mean REALLY well trained. If not, tell her she could have a disaster on her hands. Does she want to ruin her special day if the dog is running around distracting people from the ceremony, or heaven forbid has an little potty problem???
If their dog is really well trained, and will walk down the aisle, and lay down somewhere and behave, than what the heck, who is it going to hurt. They want to include their "child" in the wedding.
2007-03-12 19:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋