I've been with my bf for 3 mnts. He says hes attracted to me, but the other night he admited he thinks about other girls when we have sex, sometimes even his friends that he thinks are hot. This turned me off alot, I dont really feel like I want to have sex with him anymore. Am I over reacting, or does that happen often? I have never once fantasized about another man during sex...mostly bc I didnt want to hurt him.
2007-03-12 11:39:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been with my bf for 3 mnts. He says hes attracted to me, but the other night he admited he thinks about other girls when we have sex, sometimes even his friends that he thinks are hot. This turned me off alot, I dont really feel like I want to have sex with him anymore. Am I over reacting, or does that happen often? I have never once fantasized about another man during sex...mostly bc I didnt want to hurt him. He told me that he would never want to be in a relationship with the other girls ...i think he said that so i wouldnt feel like my position as a girl friend wasnt in jepordy.
2007-03-12 12:35:38 · update #1
Wake up.
A large fraction of all men are like that.
So actually are quite a few women, especially as everybody ages and one's partners aren't all that attractive any more.
That said -- you might want to do him a favor and dump him so that he can be with a woman who's less of a selfish prima donna than you are.
2007-03-12 12:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are very favourite, every person has them. i will understand the place he's coming from together with his, I certainly have heard from guy acquaintances that they think of it would be warm to be certain their female be with yet another guy, some only think of its warm the assumption of "sharing" her. And that's okay to persist with by using with it in case you choose to, as long as you're secure there is no longer something incorrect with it. And as far as fantasies changing over the years, they in lots of cases do with age and adventure. to illustrate I had a fantasie some years in the past that i no londer have now ect
2016-11-24 23:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This feeling you have about not wanting him sexually anymore may not go away so ask yourself can you live with this feeling? Yeah he was honest but he was also rude and unthoughtful after all no matter what he may say if the shoe were on the other foot how do you think he wold take it ?Maybe just like you took it!
2007-03-12 11:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by TATSEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal for guys to somtimes think about other girls during the act. It's just a fantasy, and if you haven't already, one day you'll do the same thing. I think you need to not ask questions that you don't want to hear the answers to, and that he should tell you things that are just going to upset you.
2007-03-20 11:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have a problem with this. I fatasize about having other guys with me besides my boyfriend all the time. It's just a sexual and imaginitive exercise. Sometimes it's arrousing. You should try it before you decide to dump him.
Don't let this really bother you, if it does, than feel free to express your opinions to him and let him understand how this hurt you and the relationship.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 11:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jack-A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just so you know this should not happen. although we are human beings who have fantasies, it should not be said to your partner esp. during sex. you need to set some ground rules if you decide to stay with him but honestly this is showing a lack of respect and you deserve more. i suggest making him feel this way... scream out someone Else's name... lol. its your call but i say dump the jerk there are guys out there that actually care and treat women right.
2007-03-12 11:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by melissa c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's harsh and real stupid of him. My suggestion would be to leave him. You want a man your doing to be thinking of you and only you. If he's thinking about other people than he's just not worth it. It basically means to him your not enough. ((that does not necessiarly mean that you arn't enough. You could be the greatest girlfriend alive)) I say dump him and when he askes why. Tell him you fantasie about other guys when your doing him.
2007-03-12 11:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ar least he admits it. Most men do this but would NEVER admit it. We cannot control fantasy, but we can choose not to act on them. You may never have fantasized but many women do. Some things should be kept to yourself. This one of them and he should have refrained too.
2007-03-12 11:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you, you have your opinion about it, now move on. Let him find someone that will put up with his likes. I find it repulsive for a man to have sex with one person and think about someone else, maybe he needs to go lay with those people.
2007-03-19 19:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He secretly hates you. He wants you to dump him because of the ugly duck that you are. With you dumping him, it saves him the trouble of having another long conversation with a ***** like yourself.
2007-03-20 11:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋