I have been going out with my bf since nov. 22 and now I don't know if I like him anymore. We have split once last month for a day =p. The reason we got back together is because he told his friends that he loved me A LOT. I felt really bad so we got back together. Now, I met a guy named Brian when I went skating and I really like him. My current bf knows that I cut words into my skin and he doesn't even care but Brian does. He likes me but we are not goin out. I don't know what to do because I don't want to break his heart! what should I do??
2007-03-12 11:20:01 · 13 answers · asked by gone_forever132 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yous should break it off with your current boyfriend.
By staying with him you are leading him on to think that you really like him the same way.
He'll be sad for a while but it's better that you end it with him now because that gives you both more opportunities to get with other people.
Once you break up with him (which I hope you do) try to wait a little while before you ask Brian out otherwise he might just feel like a rebound and rebound relationships never work out.
Oh and seriously don't cut. I mean I don't cut but I have a similar problem where I snap hair elastics on my wrist until my wrist bruises and is constantly sore. Luckily I have two really great friends who are helping me by taking away my elastics everyday when I get to school so I can't snap. Try to get help for your cutting, a therapist would be best, but if you think you can stop with just the help of friends ask your friends if it would be okay if you called them whenever you feel the need to cut and talk to them about it instead ofcutting.
Good luck and God bless
2007-03-12 11:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Remy♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you should do is break it off with your current boyfriend. You don't share the same feelings for eachother and it will only get worse if you prolong telling him. This way, you can let your new relationship grow. By staying together with your current boyfriend, you are just holding yourself back. And you wouldn't want to suddenly tell him when you are too involved with Brian.
Breaking up with him won't be easy, especially if it isn't mutual. Tell him that you have just grown apart and you are better off as friends.
Maybe your current boyfriend doesn't care about the problem because he knows that if he addresses it too much you might leave him. I'm sure he does care, especially since he told his friends that he loved you a lot. But you are only with him because you're afraid of hurting his feelings.
In the end, you are just hurting yourself. So let him go and take care of yourself. I know everything will work out.
Good luck!
2007-03-12 11:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and let your BF know that the relationship is not working and that you want to move on. You must know this or you would not have any interest in the new guy brian. The longer you wait to tell him the harder it will be. It's never easy to break up especially if someone else is involved.
2007-03-12 11:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont like your boyfriend. and the only reason you got back together with him is because of his feelings, not yours. Thats not a fair relationship. Even if it does break his heart, you should end things now before he starts falling for you even more.
i would not, however, jump right into another relationship with this brian kid, even tho he does seem very nice. Wait at least like 2 weeks or so before actually dating brian.
also, cutting words into your skin is very very bad for you. you should seek counseling or help from friends, parents, guardians, etc.
2007-03-12 11:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by brown_eyed_girl_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep dating him even though you like someone else better...because breaking up will hurt him. Then in a year or so, go ahead and marry him because he will be hurt if you don't. Go ahead and have kids with him even though he's not that nice of a guy; you can't deny him his right to have children. Then when you get to be 80 or so - he will finally die. THEN you can go out with other people you like better.
2007-03-12 11:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and break it off. He is in a dead end relationship if you don't feel the same way, and that makes the relationship misleading.
Most importantly, get help, you cannot have a great and meaningful relationship with someone else if you don't have one with yourself. Before you get serious with anyone you must get serious with yourself, why do you do it and what is it doing for you. Get help and get happy with yourself. Good luck.
2007-03-12 11:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both of you a favor and be honest with him. About the cutting try to seek professional help. If you are hurting yourself just to see who cares about you realize that the only one you are truely hurting is yourself. Best wishes to you and try to find some other outlet for your emotions that don't include hurting yourself.
2007-03-12 11:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with the guy anymore then you should let him know. It's not fair to continue in a relationship you don't want to be in just because the other person still has feelings.
2007-03-12 11:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should deal with the fact that you're physically hurting yourself before you even start dealing with someone else's feelings sweetie. "cutting" is not a safe habit at all. the fact that you cut yourself is a red flag that needs to be dealt with right now. do't worry about boys...worry about yourself. you don't give off a healthy attitude about yourself, and i think that should be dealt with before you concern yourself with someone elses feelings.
2007-03-12 11:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by desireme112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy, everything happens for a reason just do what you think would be the best for you.
2007-03-12 11:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by vv987vv987vv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋