We met on yahoo, found out basically she used me so she wouldn't be bored, basically was a trophy for her, caught other men , married men, texting her, telling her they were in love with her! Confronted her and she just denied it and said only were "good friends" sorry , been around the block enough times, to know only reason a married man would tell a single women he was in love with her, one he was getting some "tail' or two, was hoping to get some "tail" So beware men, lookout for a single female, 40, in Aurora Colorado, she's a "vampire"
She's a user, got alot of free work out of me, great Christmas presents foe her and her daughter, two months later, decided we were too " different" and couldn't be, now,literally two weeks later, she is on the prowl again, same bait, just altered a bit different, yeah, she really loved me, loved my you know what in the sack and all over the house, but once bored, looking for a new toy now...
Avoid her like the plaugue!
2007-03-12 10:50:08 · 9 answers · asked by blythkd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You deal with her the way you would/should deal with any other bad relationship. First spend some time complaining and being angry so you can get that out of your system. If you drink alcohol, I expect there will be a lot of that at this point too. Just don't get too stupid, and don't drive drunk.
Then spend some more time trying to figure out what you liked and didn't like about her personality so you can more accurately fine-tune your next search.
Then spend a little time honestly reviewing the relationship and looking for anything that could have been an early warning - kind of like the movie "Fight Club", after you've watched it once, if you go back and watch again, you can see where they build up to all the surprises. That way if you see it happening again, you'll know to stop right there, take your new girl aside and say "Look, I'm worried about this particular behavior. It may be nothing, you may not be meaning to do it, but the last time I had a woman do that around me, it meant (whatever)".
Throughout all of this, you should be devoting some time to making REALLY sure you're doing stuff that makes you happy. Things you like to do that you stopped doing 'cause she didn't like them are the best. Once you're back in a relationship, you'll have to once again make a few concessions and sacrifices, so make sure you take *some* advantage of this break to indulge, indulge, indulge (though again not to the point of excess stupidity, please).
Once you're smarter, wiser, recharged and relatively bitterness-free, go on out and prowl with the best of 'em. Good luck!
EDIT: I am totally serious about making sure the anger and bitterness is out of your system. For example, if you absolutely can't stand the idea/visual of your next girlfriend talking to other guys online, you're not ready to date again. Catching her cybering is one thing, but if the idea of casual chats with guys she swears are just friends makes you paranoid, you're still carrying baggage. Actually, that's not quite right - you're making HER carry the baggage.
2007-03-12 11:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't deal with her, because it's a waste of time and effort. Just as you were not able to establish a relationship, you will not succeed in getting revenge. Let it go and be glad that you realized what a tramp she is after only six months. This woman is obviously a professional. This is yet another reason why you should not spend much time dating online. That's the best advice I can give you. Good luck with the next one!
2007-03-12 17:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you had to go thru all of this but the internet has created people who know that the next "one" is just a click away! Next time don't let your heart or your wallet out of your sight until you know it's for real and move slow my friend! I did that internet dating thing and met a man who was basically "collecting" women. I caught him in the act and got great satisfaction out of telling him where to get off!
2007-03-12 17:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that u got bitten by a vampire but remember what goes around comes around.
2007-03-12 17:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats life ,bitter isnt it when u felt u r used ,women a world beyond mental challenge can imagine ,just when u think u know them u dont..take it easy pal ,u sound a sincere serious person u will find the right one ,
2007-03-12 17:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by reifguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it took a lady from Yahoo personals to show you the real world?
2007-03-12 17:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a common trick my dear.
You just learned a nassy lesson.
2007-03-12 17:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to hear this...dont worry you deserved better...for right now respect her desicion....anyways i do believed in karma!!
good luck
2007-03-12 17:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on she obviously wasn't worth your time or energy
2007-03-12 17:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋