I don't even think she realizes how bad her alcoholism is. She gets drunk daily and phones everyone she knows, slurring her words. She seems so angry at everyone and everything. Anyone with advice that has a similair situation with a friend or family member. I'm sick with worry too.
2007-03-12 10:45:27 · 23 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first, addicts will deny his/her addiction, whether be alcohol, narcotics or any mind-altering substance. Unless, they are ready to put a stop on it. So, it sounds like your sister is not at that point yet. She has not reached her bottom yet. there is not much you can do as of now. i know families who have turned their back to a family member who was an addict. I would not recommend doing so as long as your relation with her does not harm or put you and/or any of your loved ones in danger. All that you can do is to be there for her and to let her know that. There are ways to tell someone with an addiction issue without causing them to get angry at you for saying that or worst, close down completely. it takes diplomacy though and as a caring brother, you are the best judge for it. the main thing is to confirm your love and availability for help once she decides (not before as you will not contribute to her self-destruction) to do something about it. Learn about the various therapies available, meet ex-addicts, ex-alcoholics to learn more about how cunning addiction is (so your sister has less opportunities to fool you and you are more prepared if she decides to get help)... One thing is for sure, the more family members get involved in someone's recovery from drugs or alcohol abuse, the better chances this individual will have in overcoming his/her addiction. So, good luck. you are a super brother, you know. not everybody (i don't blame them as dealing with addicts can be a nightmare) would worry like you do.
2007-03-12 11:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read a friend's Alcoholic Anonymous book to help me help another friend that drank and took drugs. I wanted to help her, not be an enabler. I would suggest going to Alnon so you can learn what will help and what will hinder. But basically, other than learning what to do and not do, all you can do is hope she will wake up and realize she does have a problem. Sometimes it takes everyone pulling together and letting an alcoholic "be helpless" to realize they have a problem and need help before they will seek it. You must hold her accountable for whatever situations she gets into while under the influence too. By the way, the AA book I read, showed me that my (ex) husband was an alcoholic. He wasn't the "typical" type and I was surprised to find myself reading about him, when I read that book. I had no idea.
2007-03-12 18:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question and one that is so hard to answer. Truthfully there is not much you can do. When I was growing up my father was an alcholic and killed himself by drinking to much(destroyed his liver) I tried and tried, there are even some drugs out there that will make a person throw up when they drink alcohol, but doesn't work for most. Some people change when they are about to die, but they are basically already dead and have destroyed there bodies so a few weeks or months is not going to help. Counceling only works if they truly truly want to. The main thing is trying to find out why the drinking? Is it because it makes them feel good, does it solve there problems are they depressed? Get her out of the house and try to fill all her waking time with other activities...Good Luck.
2007-03-12 17:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by PrettyEskimo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I had problems with alcohol, it was because I was not connecting with any other people.
I would suggest, if possible, for you to locate a professional counselor for YOU to go to. Only for their advice on what the best way is to help her.
Or seek out a professional organization online that can give you advice for your situation. Not all advice will apply to everyone's situation, that's why I recommend seeing someone to advise you on the best way to help her.
Good luck!
2007-03-12 17:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to 3 alcholics...... sad to say, but true.
They all were very nice people when sober, but that was rare.
My last marriage he was really a sweetheart and cared deeply with his heart. But his whole family was a bunch of alcholics too.
He was admitted to 3 different rehabs.....
He did Great while in the rehab...... but did not take long once out on his own, he was back to driniking again.
He was strictly a beer drinker though.
i stuck with him and right by his side because of my Love for him and as his support as well.
But this did no good.
I even went to meetings and found out I was enabling him to drink, as I was unaware of this....
Eveyone is responible for their own being....
It was not my fault or is it yours a alcholic drinks......
They have to want to quit their selves......Before any progress can be done.
The want to stop drinking has to come from the Heart of that person.
And its .. ONE DAY AT A TIME FROM THERE ON... EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF THIER LIVES......
The only thing I can think of you can do to give any type of help is lead her to ..... "The Yellow Brick Road to Follow , to the Rehab"........ ( which means...... find her if she does not already know a rehab for her to go into for help,)
That is all I know of....... the rest is up to her to walk that path to the rehab, and get admitted on her own.
Sometimes........ HARD LOVE, is the Best Love out there...
love ...... Carol, .....OHIO
2007-03-12 18:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Carol Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can help her until she sees she has a problem.
Maybe if you stage an "intervention"---get a big group of her friends & family together to force her into facing her problem. That will sometimes trigger a good response, like admitting herself into a withdrawal facility.
If it doesn't, then she pretty much has to hit rock bottom before she will face it, and there's nothing you can do.
2007-03-12 17:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have many people in my family that abuse alcohol. What you need to do is have a family intervention. Tell her what she is doing hurts each and everyone of you and she needs help. Then directly from there take her to a rehab clinic. Its the best way to help her even if she doesnt want it!
2007-03-12 17:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by In love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that you should never turn your back on her. This can be hard because you dont want to be an enabler but at the same time she needs to know she has a support system when she is ready to deal with reality. Any addiction is a tricky and hurtful thing to deal with! Good luck!!
2007-03-12 17:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Video record her and tape her phone conversations. Play them back to her when she is sober. I would play the voice record first..and ask her to guess who it is. Then with a serious face, tell her its her--then show her the video.. and just mention that she has a very bad and serious problem and that she really needs help. Tell her that you love her and that when she is ready for help, you'll be there. As in, detox. No giving of money or any other enabeling activity. It has to get worse for her before she seeks help. SHE is the one who has to do it.
2007-03-12 17:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think u can help....its really up to her...I think they have to hit rock bottom to realize they need to change. My dad has battle addiction 4 years and are family tried everything. It took him getting 2 DUIS last year and his fifth of his life and spending a year in jail 4 him to reaizle he had a problem
2007-03-12 17:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by Keira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋