Me and my ex were together for four months. We were each others first loves. He went on vacation for two weeks and when he came back he told me half of him still loves me but half just wanted to be friends. So I said fine, I just want him to be happy, so we broke up. Even though he said we would be friends he no longer talks or looks at me. It's been two months since we broke up now. We have mutual friends and a class together. It's hard because I will be standing right next to him and it's like I don't exsist. I'm not going to ditch our friends, and neither is he. I use to try and talk to him, not about anything big, just nice small talk, but he seemed annoyed that I was doing so. I use to wave, say hello, but nothing. Now I've just started ignoring him back, he obviously wants nothing to do with me but are things always going to be like this?
2007-03-12 10:36:07 · 14 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it will always be like that. The proper course of action is to continue ignoring him back. He's not interested in a friendship after all; it was just lip service. You need to remove his ability to hurt you this way. Concentrate on what's good for you instead of him, and on your REAL friends instead of wasting energy on him.
2007-03-12 10:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by aquaman2964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, things are always going to be like this. He's being a boy and thinking that if he's friendly toward you you'll want him back. Why don't you try getting him alone and having a chat to him. Tell him your only want to be friends with him and don't think it's fair that he ignores you all the time just because you went out and it didn't work. If he still does it then just ignore him as well. He's obviously immature and can't handle having an ex girlfriend as a friend even though the break up was amicable. Just enjoy the real friendships you have and don't concern yourself with this guy.
2007-03-12 17:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think it's possible to be friends after any, ANY break up even if it's "mutual."
That's the thing about relationships, once you go from friends to lovers, and once things don't work out you will lose the person as a friend AND a lover altogether.
Back then when I broke up with my ex, I thought it would be possible to still be friends, and eventually we met up in the same class in college again and we got togther again. I thought things would work out once and for all but no, it only got worse... worse than the first time we were together.
Anyway, I just want to let you know that don't try to "shove" friendship in his face so soon after a break up. Give him a while to come back from the hurt/hate or whatever feelings he has. Good luck~
2007-03-12 17:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Col 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a possibility they will be, but no guarantee. It's possible he's trying to have nothing to do with you because he's still trying to sort through his feelings and decide what he wants in life. Maybe he's not fully over you and knows if you guys hang out or talk before he's ready things will be a big blur again. Give it a little more time, but try not to push things. He'll come around.
2007-03-12 17:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Clueless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, im in the same boat. my boyfriend of a year and a half have also just recently broke up, he said we'd still be friends[he was my VERY BEST friend before the break up] but after it was over, nothing, no calls, not a smile, he didnt even look at me, starting rejecting my phone calls, and i find my self asking the same question you are. and yea, it will be like this always, it will never be the same....just keep your chin up, he is probably not a very good friend anyway..... you don't need him.
2007-03-12 17:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by jauryd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understand why people don't say what they mean. It seem to me that he really never wanted to be your friend to begin with. He totally wanted to end things point blank. His present behavior says so. Since he no longer wants to talk to you period then leave it along. Just go about your business as though you never dated him. Apparently he didn't have the nerve to come out and tell you that he don't want any type of communication with you so don't even concern yourself about the way he is acting now.
2007-03-12 17:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Denese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, maybe! Just ask yourself if he is even worth talking too. If you think he is then wait for the moment he is alone then go and confront him. Ask him whats going on. But if i was you i would not even bother with a guy like that.
Its all up to you.
2007-03-12 17:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by star86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a normal young person thing to do. Just move on with your life. You might be surprise later in life if he comes back around
2007-03-12 17:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on and just say NEXT! He knows what he wants and you're not it any longer so it is time for you to find someone who does want you. Not a painless process but we've all been there and it passes...
2007-03-13 15:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by rashawn4u2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever watched "Friends" where Racheal invented a problem for Joey to help her with and it totally brought them back together as friends? You should try doing that.
2007-03-12 17:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋