Should we have a fourth Child?

Question

Married 11 years
1 Boy,
2 girls
Own a house with a yard
Have enough bedrooms
Stay at home mom

We love children. Worried about odd numbers. But 4 kids would be quite expensive. Husband absolutely wants another, I am the fence sitter.

Answer 1

Sure why not.
Wait will you need me to babysit???

Answer 2

I agree with the other posters that said it should be determined between you and your husband. If you can handle the three kids and the stress they can cause, the cost of school lunches (if they are in public school), the cost of feeding 5 mouths at every meal, if you can handle not having much mommy time and all the restless nights when all of your kids are sick not to mention the rainy days where the kids have no choice BUT to stay inside and all the trips with the kids asking if your there yet AND go threw the diaper changes and 3 am feedings all over again I say why not?? I have four kids, 2 boys 2 girls and I would not change any of it for the world. I am ran ragged with all the after school activities and with all the dishes after every meal but we are content on having a big family. It depends on how your husband and you feel on having another child. Dont pay any mind to those that say you should only have X amount of kids. If you two can care for them mentaly and physically then I dont see any problem. You will have that much more fighting amung the kids but big families tend to be happy families.

Answer 3

lol we have four boys and im 25 weeks pregnant with our last child!!! I say go for it, They are so much fun and the kids would love having a little brother or sister to play with, not to mention the wonderful help and love they bring to the baby :) Its adorable. I too am a stay at home mom and i can say it is ALOT of work having a big family but its well worth it. Besides that, money isnt the point, theres always a way to survive. We arent rich, we just put our family first! We learn to budget on certain areas, and how to manage a household of almost 7 LOL. I buy alot of the kids clothes and things on ebay where i get them MUCH cheaper, grandmas love to spoil so they get alot there. We eat 3 healthy filling meals a day, a snack once in awhile. The boys are involved in activites like chuch on wen nights, and boy scouts on thurs nights. We go camping and fishing every summer, and we even get out to stay in hotels once in awhile LOL! Its just a matter of finding that balance, and trust me when i tell you, going from 3 to 4 is a breeze, honestly not much changes because you are so use to doing it, it doesnt seem like a huge change at all. Im now going on 5 lol. It really wont change much around this house :) Goodluck!!!!!!

Answer 4

The biggest factor should be, do both you & your spouse WANT another child. If the answer is yes, then the choice is yours as a couple, and yours alone.

Try to determine if you really want another CHILD to raise, or if you're just missing having a little baby around. Also, do you feel that someone is "missing" in your family? I felt like our family was somehow incomplete until our sixth child was born; both my husband and I just *knew* at that point that we were done.

Answer 5

Hi there
Do what you and your husband think is best for you and your family. Sit down, talk it out and weigh up the pros and cons. If it feels right personally, emotionally and financially go for it! Putting all that aside, being the mum you will know within yourself if you want another child or not. I am having baby number 7 and am calling it quits after he/she is born as this is our limit personally, emotionally and financially.
All the best and Godbless
ockie2005 :-)

Answer 6

Same thing we have going here, Married 11 years, have 3 boys, a house, and Im a stay at home mom and we decided to go ahead and have one more child. Im now 38 weeks pregnant and we are very happy we decided to do this. This is however definitley our last child. If you feel you want to and are able to then I say go ahead.

Answer 7

I think the better question is does your husband want another kid? Its obvious you do. But daddies aren't always as excited about diaper duty also depends on the age of your kids and how they will feel. But if they all give the green light then I say go for it!

Answer 8

Do you want that 4th child with your husband? Your other question makes me confused. What about this that you asked?

" Would it really be wrong if I was to get pregnant by someone other than my spouse?
I need to get child support so I can afford another baby. Would you do it if your really wanted a baby"

You need to ask yourself, why do you want to have another baby. Are you doing it for the right reasons?

Answer 9

This is a question you need to be asking your husband not Y/A.You didn't say anything about wanting another child because you love kids.....Just that you had right environment.Maybe husband wouldn't be quit so happy about it..

Answer 10

If you and your husband want another baby and you will continue to be emotionally and financially secure, then I say the more the merrier. Goo luck and take care.

Answer 11

If you can emotionally and financially handle it, sure. But this is best to be discussed with your husband.