Ok so im 28 preggo's with my 4th child. I have an oler sister who is 32. Ok I have a hrad time getting along with her, she i dont know were to start I have been living in the same house for 3 years and this last december she los her home because she didnt want to pay the bills and spent all her money on crap. And in the 3 months that they stayed here with us the messed up our home so bad, half of my dish waher is in the back yard, 3 broken bed room doors holes in walls. My childrens rooms were o messy that I could not walk in them...my 4 year old sons pellow were out side in the rain... I have a 400$ broken computer, she broke the mirror on my suv...now when I told her about the puter i told her we really do not know who broke it s we were not going to sk for any $ nd she starts screaming at me saying that by say what i jsut said was blaming her nd her kids.. what do i do I tried talking to her and it only gets worse im always in the wrong, i dont want any thing to do with her ?????
2007-03-12 10:29:11 · 6 answers · asked by sonja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ps i want every one to know that i did ask her to move out and she did a few weeks ago...she moved in with her boy friend poor guy.... but not a thing has changed she still treats me badly. the other day she asked me for the 10$ i owed her and then i looked at her ans sid what about the 60$ you owe me n she said for what so i old her rember when u were driving my suv and hit an other car and broke my mirror on the passenger side and all she had to say to me way F-You...really nice right....I dont know what to do she wantches my kids on the weeks ends so i can work, me n the hubby dont make enough to pay 4 day care n the state says we make to much to get day care...so if i confront her and tell her im done with her s--t she will not watch my kids any more and I lose my job n no no one else will watch my kids not my mom not my mother in law no one every one has a hard time with the fact that my middle one has needs....so what do I do ?????
2007-03-12 10:45:30 · update #1
It seems to me your sister lacks respect and she is teaching the children disrespect.You certainly don't want that to rub off on your children.
Look sometimes the worst thing you can do for someone is help them.Especially when they refuse to be responsible for their own life and actions.She is grown woman and should know how to take care of herself.
It is like this someone asks you for a 5 dollar loan...so you loan them the money..After sometime it becomes a habit seems like you are always giving them that 5 dollars and to top it off never getting it back.
Your sister has some issues that are not yours to take on.
I am sure her presence has caused alot of tension in your household.She may not be hurting your children physically but she is hurting them in other ways.Would you let the neighborhood bully take out his/her anger on your family and your household?Sometimes the neighborhood bully has a familiar face.
Do yourself a favor.An act of love for your sister and your family....Tell her it is time for her to move out and be out in a week and stand your ground!
How she manages to move is not your problem.
2007-03-12 10:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Sounds like you're in over your head. You need to have a serious talk with your sister; you don't need that additional stress of her living with you, especially when you already have four kids of your own to worry about. If she doesn't clean up her act and try to get a job after you talk with her, you need to kick her out. By age 32, she should learn some responsibility. Call it "tough love" if you will, but it's the right thing to do.
2007-03-12 10:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Prue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that the best way to go is to let her hit bottom. If she feels like somebody is going to be there, then she might not feel to compelled to change. It is your life and your house. Do what you want. I know she is family, but sometimes the best kind of love is the tough. Give her a set date to get her orders straight, make her move out, and make sure you stick to it. She might not like it at this time, but in the future, she will appreciate it.
2007-03-12 10:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tortillo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a boyfriend that will let her move in with him.
2007-03-12 10:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for her to get her own place.
2007-03-12 10:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her out........?
2007-03-12 10:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by Alex C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋