What to do??

Question

What do I do if my siste is obsesed with having sex???? I have tried talking to her about the risks and what can happen but she won't listen to me...she sneaks out of her room every night and I didn't want to tell my parents because then she would be mad at me but I having second thoughts about doing so and telling my parents what should I do???? She keeps telling me her boyfriend is making her have sex with him but he is a good kid and I know his older brother and they aren't that way.. My sister is 14 and I am 17

Answer 1

Well if she won't listen to you you may need to tell your parents.

The rules aren't there to prohibit having fun, but because there are risks involved, it would be bad if she got pregnant or a sexual disease that she would never have a cure for the rest of her life.

Tough spot to be in, but she may not understand how risky it is.

Answer 2

Telling your parents about your sister's behaviour might make your sister resent you for the moment, but it is the best option, and the best for your sister in the long run. But before you do, try talking to your sister again. If you think that her boyfriend isn't the kind of person that would force someone to do something, ask your sister if she's being pressured by peers. If that's not the case, then she might have some crazy idea of having sex to be more mature. 14 year olds can be mindless, so it's not uncommon for them to have some unreasonable reason to have sex.

There IS one other way to make your sister stop. Somehow, make her think that she's pregnant. It's not very nice, but it definitely will give her a good scare. That might make her think twice before engaging in any more sexual activities.

Answer 3

In my opinion, parents always want to know what their child goes through. They want to be there to help and they wouldn't want to see their 14 year old daughter having sex. It's your choice whether or not you want tell your parents, but it's probably the right decision. But make sure you talk with your sister before you tell your parents and make sure she's completely honest with you. Little brothers and sisters usually can confide easier in their older siblings than their parents. And try to be as supportive as you can to her, not about what she's done, just be at her side cause it might be rough getting this secret out. Denouncing something as serious, and it is serious, like this to your parents is going to cause some chain reactions of course. Specifically trust issues, with your sister and your parents, as well as with you. But you have to look at the big picture. Do you want your sister to stop or not.

Answer 4

You're the older sister? Show some maturity & sisterly love.
Tell your parents. If you care for your sister,your parents need to know. You would be doing it for her own good; protecting her. If she gets mad, she gets mad. As she matures she will see that you were just looking out for her welfare
How do you know she's not meeting someone else behind her boyfriends back?
Her boyfriend is not making her have sex. She's sneaking out on her own...or is she being "made" to sneak out. Your mom & dad need to know about this.
Since you feel she is having sex regularly, how are you gonna feel when she gets pregnant? STD's, or worse?

Answer 5

Tell your parents. Big sisters look out for little sisters. And don't expect little sister to be thankful. She won't be, at least not for another 15-20 years.

I truly, honestly believe, that if you don't tell your parents and something happens to her, you will be on a long hard guilt trip. Save yourself and her: tell them.

Answer 6

weigh your options. 1) you tell you parents whats going on and she gets angry. 2) you say nothing and your sis gets pg or a disease and your parents get mad b/c you said nothing. seems like it's cut and dry. she's 14 for gods sake. tell.

Answer 7

Tell your parents. She's putting herself at risk.