well my "boo" cheated on me with some girl down my road , he recorded it and everything! is soo crazy i love him so much but its breaking my heart because he lied and said to the girl we just worked together - stupid excuse for coming to my house- they still talk to each other and i threatened to break up with him but he gave me a look and i just couldnt leave him im so sad but i dunno what to do, i know he has feelings for that girl still but i know he loves me too, im going crazy help me ya'll!! plus he is a "giggaho"
2007-03-12 10:21:50 · 25 answers · asked by ...x...sxy ting...x... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sure you love him but is he worth it? I mean do you think after finding out that he cheated on you once that you can trust that he won't cheat on you again? If he is still talking to that girl how do you know he won't have sex with her again? He may say he won't but I am sure he told you he would never cheat on you and he did. Whatever decision you make is entirely up to you. If you think you can forgive him and trust him again to be faithful then perhaps you two can work things out. If you constantly have doubt and begin to wonder where he's at or if he's with that girl then ask yourself is all that worrying worth keeping him? And who's to say he won't cheat again? Just follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you and not him. Because he has already shown you what was best for him by having sex with that girl and disregard your feelings. You say he still have feelings for that girl so ask yourself why would you want to share him with her? There is so much diseases going around out there I am sure you don't want to end up catching something that can't be cured or something you will have to deal with the rest of your life. You are more than that. You are worthy of someone who will not cheat on you and give you the love you deserve. Find someone who will respect and love you. We all deserve that in life. Good luck.
2007-03-12 10:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Denese 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man will do what you allow him to do. If you take him back after he cheated, he will do it again because you already let it go once. He may love you, but he is not in love with you and there is a big difference. You need to decide if this is a situation that you want to go through again? Because I can almost guarantee you that he will at some point repeat this ugly, disgusting behavior!
Another thing you need to consider is what kind of STD's he could be bringing home to you? I'm sure he probably told you they used a condom.....right? Most times, they don't. For your own safety and peace of mind, you might want to go get checked.
Also remember this - he cheated on you. You did nothing wrong. If you take control of this situation and break up with him (I know it is easier said than done) he will not be expecting it. He expects you to just eat the handfuls of BS that he is dishing out to you. If you put your foot down and tell him that you are not going to allow him to do this to you and you are the one to walk away, you will feel empowered. Men also have a tendency to sometimes straighten up once you walk out on them. The worse you treat them, the better they treat you sometimes! He needs a wake up call. If he truly loves you, he will straighten up his act and the two of you will find your way back to each other! But don't make it easy for him!
2007-03-12 17:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Meadow Soprano 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all get tested for STDs. second, the problem isn't him. it's why you don't feel you deserve better. what do you really love about him anyway? the way he disrepects you? that's not love. it sounds like you have some serious confidence issues going on. this doesn't sound like a loving relationship where the guy made a mistake. he sounds like a jerk. i mean, the man TAPED himself cheating & with a girl DOWN THE ROAD from you!!!! are you serious? how much more does he have to poop on you before you leave?
i've been in similar situations & i know it's hard to break away. one of my exs cheated on me during college with TWO girls that lived on my floor. listen, at some point you must realize how the situation looks from the outside. eventually you will get tired of his abuse but i just hope you don't get pregnant or get an STD in the process. good luck!
2007-03-12 17:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL hello. You already know the answer to that. Hes gonna disrespect you by cheating on you and then hes gonna not even care that you say your gonna break up with him. He knows hes got you and hes gonna keep on cheating on you thats for sure. If you want to stay with him you better get comfortable with the idea of getting played all the time. Oh and you might want to get monthly check ups at the AIDS and STDs clinics.
2007-03-12 17:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by TheLight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok... do you think you should stay with a guy who has no respect for you and who broke your heart.... i would say it is not the best idea.... dump him and if he comes crawling back dont take him back... alot of girls just want to stay with a guy because they think they can make the relationship better... but in most cases it is once a cheater always a cheater because if they had the nerver to do it in the first place who says they will not do it again... u need to find a guy who really cares about you and leave this guy behind
2007-03-12 17:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the others have said, drop him. If he wants to get back together with you, still refuse. After some time, if he continues to want to get back with you, tell him you will consider it but that he is definitely going to have to change some of his ways. First of all, he is going to have to stop being a gigolo. Tell him because of his last indiscretion, he hurt you and lost your trust in him and it will take some time to rebuild that trust. Also explain to him that you are going to be watching him like a hawk and that he may not be able to handle that pressure. Lastly, explain to him that for the slightest infraction on his part you will drop him like a hot potato and it will be final.
2007-03-12 18:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Oenophile... (Lynn) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good situation. I have a friend who went through the same scenario (he actually recorded himself with a few different chicks - in her house and she found the videos) and she actually took him back...he hasn't changed and she's still miserable. If that happened to me, I would not put up with it...he'd be history. But in the end, that's a decision only you can make. Do you want to continuously put yourself through that crap or find someone who is more worthy of you and you alone?
2007-03-12 17:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he wasn't *your boo* if he's doing other chicks down the road. You were simply on the list of chicks that he was doing. If you choose to stay then he's not just a gigaho, you're just a contributor.
2007-03-12 17:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
girl i think u should give him one more chance even though he cheated u love and u would regret not seeing him agani make it clear though that if he deos it agian or ever sees that girl again its over let him know how crushed u are and that it hurt your heart and it will hurt to leave him so girl give him
1 more chance not 2 or 3, 1 good luck : ) i hope u can work through this
2007-03-12 17:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by missy A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, you need to give your head a shake. why are you dating a guy that's a giggalo. Are you so naive that you would subject yourself to constant cheating? think about this if he loved you so much why is he sleeping with the chick down the street and telling her that you his gf is a co-worker
WAKE UP
2007-03-12 17:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋