My friend has liked this guy for two years now, and he is interested in me. He has really grown on me and now I like him. Me and a couple of friends, including her, went to a movie and now she thinks that the guy likes her. Well, he asked me out, and I really I want to go out with him, but I don't my friend to be hurt. She has known him longer than I have but we hav chemistry. How should I tell her? Should I even tell her that he likes me?
2007-03-12 10:17:19 · 17 answers · asked by I heart UNC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not unless you intend to go out with the guy. i mean, be sure he and you will be together for a while before telling her. it sounds like she is very much in love and as you said yourself, you don't want to hurt her (and you are right). now, when it comes to the way you should tell her: ooops. i am afraid you have to accept the fact that it will hurt her no matter how you put it (if indeed she has strong feelings towards him). i guess the more diplomatic you are about it, the less hurtful it will sound. Try to think about your girlfriend's character and sensitivity and run in your head the best adapted scenario. People are different and i don't think it would be "being fake" if you decide to say some things and not others so to avoid hurting her feelings. Finally, if you two are very close, this situation should not put an end to the friendship. Take it as a test. it's not like you are stealing him from her. the three of you are only friends and he is interested in you from the start but not in her.And, if for some reason, you two never speak to each other again or grow more and more apart, you can rest assure that everything happens for a reason. Your friendship was not as solid as you had believed.
2007-03-12 10:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well trust me when I say this. Your friend will not understand no matter how you try to explain it. You will have to make a choice. If you think that this guy is going to be the "One" then maybe you should risk hurting your friend. If you are unsure that this guy will want to be with you for along time then I wouldn't suggest doing anything with him. You will lose a friend if you decide to go out with him. She might say that it doesn't matter but trust me it does. I hope you make the right decision. Good luck :)
2007-03-12 10:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys come and go but friends are there through thick and thin. My best friend and I have been friends for 14 years now and we've been through plenty of times like this. We always chose eachother and now we are both with the man we're going to spend the rest of our lives with . . . and we still have eachother. Let the guy go and keep your friend. Shes' been there through more than he ever will be.
2007-03-12 10:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to the guy and tell him your situation. I think this is a case that ultimately nobody should end up with him considering the feelings of everyone here. It's simple science: If he goes with any of you, one of you will be greatly hurt. We don't want that. NOW, If he goes with none of you, everyone will be sad, but will probably go on living with it and find someone later. There's pleny more fish in the sea. (Like Me!!!)
2007-03-12 10:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Agent47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend never went out with him, she just liked him. Talk to her about this in an honest and open way. Let her know of how your are concerned on not hurting her feelings. if she really is mature enough to understand she will give you her blessings. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-12 10:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you dont want to go around your friends back because it will only make things worse so you are better off telling her upfront about the guy before things get out of hand
2007-03-12 10:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring it up. If she's a real friend, she'll be happy for you, but hurt at the same time. I do not advise you hiding it from her because she'll find out anyway, and when she does, she'll see you as a backstabber. Tell her first before you tell anyone else.
2007-03-12 10:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a good friend I would not go out with the guy. Why jeopardize a good friendship for a guy. But if she is just an associate that you don't care that much about then go for it!
2007-03-12 10:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by onlyoneshea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to the rule of not dating friends ex's or soon to be ex's? If your friend is a really good friend than why would ou want to put them thru that hurt and then you lose your friend and damage the relationship. Keep your friend.
2007-03-12 10:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you are close friends with this person (your friend). If she is the kind of friend you can say anything to, then you should tell her.
2007-03-12 10:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by C. A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋