My boyfriends and I have been dating for a little over a year and a half. We have a great relationship and until lately I was sure that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Even a few weeks ago when we had a minor fight (though we hardly ever do) I despaired at the thought of losing him. Though the initial burst of infatuation faded a while ago I still always knew I loved him, even in a more routine way. However starting last week something changed. I suddenly panicked at only being with him forever (which is what he wants too) I still have fun with him, but I don't feel lovey dovey toward him and this has just made me weird and uncomfortable around him. When I think of not dating him it makes me sad, but also kind of free and excited. How did I fall out of love so quickly? Or is this something else? This has happened once before but I fell right back in love a couple days later but its been a week PS we live 3 hrs apart, im at college, but havent had trouble b4
2007-03-12 10:12:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-12 10:13:36 · update #1
Hmmmm to be honest sounds like a mixture of both. But it primarily tells me you are simply too comfortable in the relationship. He is ready for the next step, but I do not think you are. It is obvious by the fact when you said you felt excited and free at the thought of not being with him that you are indeed not in love with him.
But yet a part of you wants to hold on to that comfort, that security his heart is providing you. Ask yourself this. Is that comfortable feeling, despite being apart what you really truly want? Or do you want to feel that excitement, that passion you have at the thought of being free?
Either way you must decide soon. Because sooner or later, those emotions are gonna burst out and someone is going to be hurt worse, then if you confront it now.
2007-03-12 10:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by ladydragonstar26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mkk
there are two different reasons(either/or) that might make you feel this way
1.you might just be in a rut, you are in love with him, but dont feel it as intense as you used to, you might need a break, (not a break) just to see how much you really care
2.you might love him but not be IN love with him, either way you might have to take a break to see how much you care
3.now here is the obvious on. you mught jus be thinking about the idea of marriage as a little too...annoying and committing..jus remember you hold the power(as does he) to leave this relationship WHENEVER you want, now if you keep that thought in mind then i think itll help you not feel as if yer too commited er in a rut plus talk to him about it(what yer feeling)
it will make you feel better, who knows he might even feel the same way.
good luck =)
2007-03-12 10:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum cases love isn't planned. you do no longer take a seat around and say, "i will love that individual." that's resembling falling into something... that's a ask your self, a ask your self, and howdy... especially circumstances it hurts too! i'm not sure the place the word originated. i think of i will see if i will seem it up however. i've got no longer relatively theory approximately it till you asked. thank you for making me think of slightly.
2016-11-24 23:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your gut tell you? If your done then be done. Maybe your just afraid of being alone so you stay with him. Look at it this way, you are alone in a relationship so whats the difference?
2007-03-12 10:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a bit of maturity on your part, you will realize that there is a difference in being in love and loving somebody. I suggest you work on school and everything else will fall in place.
2007-03-12 10:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference in loving someone and being in love with someone. you need to ask yourself what are you IN LOVE WITH HIM or JUST LOVE HIM like you do a friend or brother. its not really fair on either of you if you do not sort this as you both deserve to be happy IN LOVE. ***** of a decision and would not like to make it myself and sorry if i seem so blunt. Good Luck in what ever it is you decide.
2007-03-12 11:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by LISA uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be bored with the relationship. You guys should have a talk.
2007-03-12 10:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-12 10:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by tuff luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-12 10:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stick with it... if things get bad... leave
2007-03-12 10:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋