My ex husbands- brother's wife is my maid of honor we have been best friends for about 7 years now and she really stuck by me when my ex and I divorced. I have asked her to be my maid of honor my to be husband is ok with it.... but there are some family memeber moaning and groaning and tell me how disrespectful I am being??? Am I being tacky?
2007-03-12 10:04:13 · 18 answers · asked by Lizzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not sure who you're supposedly being disrespectful to......
Your soon-to-be husband? Maybe...but, if he's okay with it, then why are you worried?
Your ex-husband? Who cares?
Your family? How is it disrespectful to them? Are they getting married? Did THEY go through the divorce?
Your ex's family? Again...who cares?
Honestly, this is YOUR wedding. When it comes to figuring out who should stand up there with you, you should do whatever YOU want.
Just my opinion...I'm sure other folks will have their own...
2007-03-12 10:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Silver 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The moaning and groaning will happen no matter who you pick. It may be about something different but, it will be there also this is not the first of it.It seems like everyone has an opinion. I have even heard of people having their ex husbands give them away. If it feels right to you and your fiance its right.We meet the special people in our lives many different ways some times it may not be the most favourable way but it doesn't make them any less special.
2007-03-12 17:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance is okay with it, no one else's opinion should matter. Your best friend should be your maid of honor. The relation to your ex-husband is as an in-law anyway, so its not like she's really related to him. Tell all those other people that the only opinion you care about is your future husband's and they can all mind their own business.
2007-03-12 17:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is tacky at all, if you two are friends then do not let what others say bauther you.... Ask her how she feels, if she would be more comfortable just being at the wedding, then i would find another maid of honor...
2007-03-12 17:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your hubby to be is okay with it and you are okay with it then I really don't see the problem. She is a person in her own right and is being seen as such by you and your hubby to be - it is other people's problems if they can't get passed irrelevant history which had nothing to do with your friend.
There will always be people who complain and think they have the right to voice an opinion. When it comes down to it, it is your day and you need to fill it with the people that will make you feel most comfortable and happy - which it sounds like you are doing.
Congratulations!
2007-03-12 17:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. When selecting bridal party members, brides and grooms must realize how important it is to include those that are "truly" close to them. This is your day and everything about it signifies something special to you. Your moaning family will have to do just that...moan. If your fiance' understands your friendship and is very well okay with it-then you have yourself a Maid of Honor.
Congratulations.
2007-03-12 17:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by theplanningdiva 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No! This is your day. It should be with all the people that mean the most to you. If your to-be-hubby is OK with it, then the heck with everyone else. You didn't have any say in their wedding parties, right? Make it a perfect day in YOUR eyes. If they don't like it than let them look the other way. Don't leave any room for regret due to someone else's opinion.
2007-03-12 17:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by jessnbethsmom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, she is your best friend.
In my 31 years I have learned that especially with weddings, there are always going to be people who "poo-poo" your decisions. You have to do what makes you happy, with the least amount of detriment to others. But you will never make EVERYONE happy. So if your decisions arent causing any actual harm to anyone, be confident that you are doing the right thing for you and progress.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 17:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you're not being tacky at all. She is your friend. Who says you have to hate your ex's family?. Just because you divorce him doesnt mean you divorce his family unless of course you want to
2007-03-12 19:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The maid of honor should be the bride's choice.
2007-03-12 17:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋