i lost a family member a couple of days ago and i cried a lot the day they passed away but i haven't cried since then. is there something wrong with me coz i feel like the person is still alive. i get sad sometimes but i don't cry????
2007-03-12 10:00:23 · 20 answers · asked by taylor09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
there is nothing wrong with you. when i lost a family member it took a while for it to sink in that they had gone. i found myself doing little things like making her a brew and stuff. They go from our life but they never leave our hearts and we don't need to shed tears to prove we miss them. Give yourself time luv it is a healer. i still really miss the person i lost and yes i still cry 5 years later but i can now talk about her to others without crying every time. Good Luck, and i am sorry for your loss.
2007-03-12 10:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by LISA uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone handles grief differently. There are some that never let out their emotions, at least you cried the day they passed away. And feeling like they're still alive is common. I remember when my dad passed away, for a few months after that I would think I needed to call him and then realized he had died. Just because you're not crying every day doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, you're just handling it in your own way.
2007-03-12 10:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is one of these questions that just cannot be answered. At times like this you just seem to find the strength. We are all different, some people have to genuinely cry buckets others feel as you do. It is perfectly natural. You may not cry again, you may be upset again day of the funeral or something weeks or months ahead may just remind you of the person and the tears come. Whatever way you grieve is okay. Not crying doesn't mean you cared or loved the person any less. One day you will look back. remember and enjoy the happy memories you had with this person.
2007-03-12 11:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are OK! Grieving is different for everyone.
I had back surgery May 2005 and another emergency back surgery in June 2005. I had just gotten home from the hospital when I got word my sister went in the hospital. Less than a week later she died. I found out she had advanced lung cancer...she knew 2 months before she passed on, I had no time what-so-ever.
I didn't cry for about 6 months as I was busy (laid up in bed recovering from surgery) make arrangements, finding ways to move her possessions from Nevada to New Mexico and such.
So not crying isn't anything to be worried about. You will mourn in your own time and in your own way. Many people deal with the death of loved ones very differently.
To me, my sister is in far better place than I am and I am so happy for her. I have pictures of her and mementos given to me over the many holidays and birthdays and memories of when she ticked me off or made me laugh till I peed my pants....so in this aspect, my sister is still with me and hasn't really gone anywhere, we are much closer.
The fact that you feel your loved one is still alive is because they are...in your heart, thoughts and memories and with that, they never pass on.
2007-03-12 10:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by belen2499 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone copes differently with loss, when my Dad died I cried once and then didn't cry again. This was just my own personal coping mechanism it was 12 years ago and obviosly once the pain wasn't so raw i have cried when thinking about it since. You aren't doing anything wrong by not crying you're just coping.
2007-03-12 10:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like this last month when a close uncle passed away and it wasn't until the day of his funeral that it really hit home - people grieve in different ways and there are no right or wrong ways to express your emotions - just remember not to bottle things up though - it is a sad time and my thoughts are with you
2007-03-12 10:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for ur loss honey,it takes time to really sink in,u will go for days or weeks without crying but it will hit u again and again out of the blue. The more time passes, u miss them more, its not easy but u will cope. E-mail me if u wanna chat about it,I know how ur feeling....Big Hug xo
2007-03-12 11:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is completely normally.
There are different stages in the griefing process, each affecting different people in different ways.
These stages include denial (which may be why you feel the person is alive) and acceptance (which explains the lackof crying.
Im really sorry for your loss. I know how you feel!
All the best xx
2007-03-12 10:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by Gemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I am sorry to hear that, but I lost a great grandmother @ 100 yrs: last October! You not crying is your body trying to be strong. You cry at first, but you do have to move on. It is OK to not cry, because sometimes people try not to cry to avoid thinking about it.
Sorry, Cowgirl**
2007-03-12 10:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by TrishaLynn** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very close to my nan but when she passed on although i was very down and sad i did not cry and have still not. I dont know why that is either.
2007-03-12 10:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋